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By Jennifer Antonik
www.MommaTraumaBlog.com

FELTON, DE -- Jaielyn Belong is a sophomore at Lake Forest High School in Felton, Delaware. “She is a good student,” said her mother Betty Belong. “She's a book worm and has occasionally gotten in trouble for reading during class.”

Five weeks ago, she welcomed baby Adrian Amir Belong into her arms at over eight pounds.  Baby Adrian now weighs a whopping 10 pounds thanks to his mom who is exclusively breastfeeding him with the hopes of breastfeeding him for at least one year as is the current recommendation by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Jaielyn, now a teen mom, will soon be returning to school to continue her high school career with the support of her own mother, family and a host of local moms. There’s only one catch:

"I feel the school is discriminating against my decision to breastfeed my son," she said. A sentiment which is seconded by Betty who feels the school is bullying Jaielyn.

The nurse, a counselor and a school administrator recommended Jaielyn only breastfeed her son before and after school hours. This recommendation would not be changed regardless of whether or not a doctor’s note is able to be obtained. This would mean Jaielyn could not pump for or nurse her baby for over eight hours every weekday.

This recommendation goes against Delaware law which reads:

31 Del. C. § 310

Notwithstanding any provision of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted.
Some view going to school as the job of a teenager, which would mean the Reasonable Break Time For Nursing Mothers in the Fair Labor Standards Act would also be important to this case, see the bottom for the full text. It states:
SEC. 4207. REASONABLE BREAK TIME FOR NURSING MOTHERS.
Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 19384 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:

‘‘An employer shall provide a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk."
Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”

According to Betty, the nurse added that her refrigerator was for medicinal only and that she believes Jaielyn would need to be supervised. “Her peers may tease her,” the nurse told Betty.

Local La Leche League (LLL) leader, Heather Felker said, "It seems illogical that a place cannot be found for this teen to pump. If a teacher requested an area to pump, by law one would need to be provided. The teens mother also mentioned that there is a Bayhealth clinic on site."

Felker, who has alerted the LLL organization as well as the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition of the situation, said Jaielyn "has shown great maturity by taking responsibility for her pregnancy and now her son. She chose breastmilk as the healthiest possible start for her son, and as a cost saving measure for her family. By not supporting these choices, the school is sending a negative message."

This negative message goes against the Lake Forest High School Student Code of Conduct which reads: "All Lake Forest students shall behave in a manner that promotes a school environment that is nurturing, orderly, safe and conducive to learning and personal/social development."

“I only want what's the very best for him and it is scientifically proven, breast milk is the best choice," Jaielyn said.

Her mom added, “My daughter’s body made this milk for him and she wants him to have what's all natural and made just for him. My daughter just wants to be able to do her academic studies and care for her son's nutritional needs.

"When our children go through life and make positive choices we have to follow through and do what we can to help,” Betty said in support of her daughter’s breastfeeding decision. “I'm so proud of the choices she's made and I have to help in any way I can. I thought I was fighting a losing battle, but knew I wasn't giving up without one."

 


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Michaela
01/30/2013 2:22am

Good for her!!
Breast Milk is the best and if there is a law stating she should be able to feed or express milk, then the school should be forced to abide by the law.

However, since that may take time, I'd look into homeschooling until she is out of gosh school.

Good Luck though! It's nice to see a young teenage mom truly want what is best and not be selfish. Keep it up and your life as a mother will be rewarding.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 7:26am

Homeschooling? NO. Show up at school with your pump, Jaileyn!!! You are a Mother: YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO.

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Amanda
01/30/2013 9:14am

Absolutely Rachel! If she's comfortable with it, she should make as much noise as she can! They cannot do a dang thing about it without opening themselves up to a lawsuit!
Jaileyn, good for you for standing up for yourself and for making a great decision for your baby!

Liv
01/30/2013 10:13am

I hope you are taking the stance of normalizing breastfeeding and not that of slamming families who homeschool. As of 21010, 38% college admissions are homeschoolers.

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 11:09am

Liv (below): I thought we were talking about a high school student being denied the opportunity to breastfeed in a public school system. If this was a post concerning rights being denied regarding homeschooling, and I thought I had something supportive to offer, then I would post as well.

Heather
01/30/2013 11:16am

As do I, Liv- as a homeschooling mother (both in college myself, and homeschooling my 5 children) who nurses herself.

I was born and raised in Delaware, and went to public school there at John Dickinson HS. Let me tell you- the school system is not htere for the students, at least not in DE they're not. (one of the main reasons I chose to HS!) I truly hope that she continues to breastfeed, but also to fight the school.. She has legal rights as would any teacher wanting to breastfeed. My recommendation to her would be: get a good lawyer honey, but also look into other options. You and your son are worth fighting for, but do what you need to to continue your education.

The lactivist in me says go sit in the main office and breastfeed your son. There's nothing they can do about it there.

Jenna
01/30/2013 11:34am

I see you have a lot of accreditation (spell check) I havent been able to get a straight answer about a breastfeeding issue I am having, can I contact you by email or pm?

01/30/2013 4:11pm

this is not about breastfeeding, it's about who can be sued, and ofcourse now she is famous!!! (if only in her own mind)

Lori Atkins, RN, IBCLC
01/30/2013 4:40pm

You GO, Jaileyn! I agree with Rachel, the law protects you, feed your baby on your terms, not some backwards, uneducated school employees. That so called nurse should be ashamed of his/herself, and leave off any letters after his/her name. A nursing education denotes that EDUCATION was conferred upon the individual using a nursing license. If this person was remotely educated, they would have fully supported this mom in feeding her baby in the best way possible.So sorry this is the person is a healthcare authority @ this school. Embarassing for the profession. Breastmilk is in no way infectious or dangerous, and can be safely stored in a soft, insulated cooler kept with mom during the day. Pumps are quiet, if not put a towel over it. Same things we teach moms returning to work. No big deal. Any way we can help with this?

mary
01/31/2013 6:42pm

Let's hope. for her sake she puts her mind on not having any more children until she is much older and able to provide financally. I think she should be able to pump but she should use her lunch break and do it in private surely the school can provide an are for her.

Wainani
01/30/2013 10:09am

This boils my blood. Ugh. What a horrible staff. And the part about a teacher requesting a place to pump would be given, is soooo true. -__-

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Scarlett
02/02/2013 3:31pm

I commend this young lady and I think she needs a place to pump and the time to do it. But I will say, as a former high school teacher, I was not allowed to pump when needed. I was allowed to use the nurse's office only if she wasn't busy and then only on my lunch break. I had to quit nursing because it was too painful to go hours and not be permitted to pump.

Kristen
01/30/2013 10:23am

Go straight to the top!! Michelle Obama is HUGE into ensuring healthy, well balanced children through proper diet and exercise! I'm sure help from the First Lady of the US would "push" the school in the right direction!

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Ron
01/30/2013 11:21am

As I am sure since the Vice President himself is from Delaware word can be easily gotten to the First Lady about this issue.

01/30/2013 11:29am

Michelle Obama is also a big supporter of breastfeeding!

Jessica
01/30/2013 11:46am

The "King and Queen" don't need to get into this problem, it's a local problem and our tiny state needs to jump all over it before we bring in the top, I'm sure with this illegal immigrant/healthcare deal their hands might
Be a little full at the moment. This young mother needs to call Jack Markell, Jacks wife, the AG for The state (Beau Biden) and anyone else in our state govt that she can. Also the Delaware Dept. of ed! that makes much more sense than "call Michelle!". Why not give advice that's actually attainable.

Cells
01/31/2013 12:41am

yes, Michelle Obama would support breast feeding but her husband would tell her she should have just had an abortion and saved everyone the trouble.

Jessica
01/31/2013 1:31pm

Yelps i was thinking that too mrs Obama and the president supports breastfeeding write to them

bunky boo
01/30/2013 4:22pm

Selfish HAHAHA you guys truly dont know this little girl..the father is 18 and she denies him the rite to even see his baby...you all should know the true story because what you see here is not it...The school never denied her the rite to pump. What business establishment would allow a new mom going back to work after 6 weeks to have her baby be brought to the business every 2 hours to breast feed?? NONE..also, if you pump after returning to work don't you do it in private or at the lunch table with the rest of the employees?? and if you do pump at work do you store it in the fridge with the rest of the employee lunches or in a private container??? Come on be real and LEARN the TRUE STORY ABOUT THIS GIRL before posting and getting america all up in arms, Thanks....

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01/30/2013 4:43pm

Your comments are ignorant. An employer is required by law to provide a place to pump and a place to store milk. You are not required to bring your own cooler to work for peats sake!

Rebecca
01/30/2013 5:32pm

You should probably learn the tool called "spell check". Your post makes you sound completely ignorant.

Squirl
01/30/2013 5:55pm

You are right bunky boo. This is being dramatized. What about the message it sends to other girls her age? That no matter what they do, they will be accommodated instead of having to face up to their actions.

Angel
01/30/2013 7:23pm

It isn't about the teen, it's about her child and what is best for him. State law provides sanctuary to express breast milk. If she is denied they are breaking the law.

breastfeeding mom
01/30/2013 7:41pm

So what you are saying, Squirl, is that because she is a teen mom and is trying to do the best for her baby by breastfeeding him or pumping milk for him, that she should not be accommodated?! She needs to "face up to her actions" that she got pregnant by making her baby pay for it?! You are ridiculous and need to open up your eyes to the world. This would be against the law at any other employer and for her, her job is getting educated!!!

bunky boo-Most employers would not allow the baby to come to work, but it seems as if they wouldn't let her pump either. I do not pump at the lunch table, employers are required by law to have a place to allow their employees to do this. I do have to use the fridge that the other employees use for their lunches, but you wouldn't know it with the bag I use to store it. Who cares about her letting the father see the baby, that's not what this is about right now. It doesn't change the story and what i am thinking is that YOU are the dad and are just taking out your anger about the situation here. You won't win here. My guess is that she doesn't want to sit and pump in the middle of the class room!

Claire
01/30/2013 8:45pm

Many jobs allow for this...and this isn't about HER it is about the baby...so perhaps you should not worry so much about America getting upset- we should be...And I DID store my milk with the lunches...it is milk! I was provided a private room to pump, which is her RIGHT according to the new laws. If she is not provided with proper accommodations, she should sue.

Hope
01/30/2013 10:57pm

BUNKY BOO- your comment is that of a clearly ignorant and uneducated person. Employers are required by law to provide a private place for pumping and an appropriate place for storage. I, being a mother of 3 who breastfed, put my milk into a thermal lunch box and placed it into the STAFF REFRIDGERATOR IN THE BREAK ROOM, it was not in with everyone elses food, nor was it obvous what was in the lunch box. She has every right to be able to feed her child via whatever means she feels best, and if that is breast feeding then good for her, you should be praising her for making the decision to give her son what is the best possible nutrition for him! Weather she is in agreeance with the father as to him seeing the child or not,has nothing to do with her choice and right to breast feed her son, but way to go lookin gfor any pathetic excuse to blast someone on a public forum, you're awesome.

Lisa
01/30/2013 11:29pm

It shouldnt matter the age of a woman or whether she is in school or not all that should matter is the physical well being of this beautiful life that God has given to her and her family. Whatever the situation with the "father" or " sperm donor" whatever you want to call him, that is something that should be kept private between the mother and himself. Teenagers typically are not mentally mature enough to understand that. This young woman sounds like she has her head on straight and is trying to do what is right and she should be left alone to raise her child in peace. There are ways for her to be able to breastfeed and go to school without making such a big deal out of it. She ought to be congratulated for going back to school and trying to make something of herself instead of quitting and becoming just another statistic on welfare. Keep up the good work sweetheart. Doing what you're doing says that you are much more mature than the average girl your age who has had a child. Fight for what you believe in and the Good Lord Almighty will see you through every step of the way. Shame on your school system for treating you like they are...you've got a gift from God, not some horrible contagious disease! I'm a mother of three and I breastfed every one of my babies and would do it again in a heartbeat if I had to. It makes your baby very healthy. My children hardly ever get sick and I truly believe that is why. Think about it...that's the way God intended it to be, because they sure didn't have bottles of formula back when God made Adam and Eve! GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!!!♡♡♡

Breastfeeding Mom/Enthusiast
01/31/2013 12:33am

What is being argued is COMPLETELY legitimate. High school is NOT work. Breastfeeding is a natural part of life. I think you are so ignorant for thinking that it is completely normal for a newborn to not have the right to eat. No one is saying that she has to be able to do it in the open but she should be allowed to go to the nurse's room and feed her child. This isn't about a teenager being irresponsible but the complete opposite. She has every right to fight for this.

Allison
01/31/2013 1:57pm

@bunky boo...while we may not know "the true story about this girl", that 's clearly not the issue here. The issue is a mother's right to breast feed her child. And, as a matter of fact, I pumped at work after the births of both of my children. I discreetly excuse myself to the restroom to do so and stored my milk in a lunch bag in the employee refridgerator. Those who did know what I was doing and what was in my lunch bag supported me and were not the least bit bothered by what I was doing.

Tiffany
02/06/2013 10:05am

This has nothing to do with her relationship with the father so bunky boo u should probably get back to your school work and leave yhis poor girl alone. You have no clue what you are talking about. Yes employers do let women pump in private areas and her breast milk wouldn't b near lunches it would b safely stored in the nurses office.

kayls
01/30/2013 5:30pm

My grandmother drives pregnant/teen moms and their children to a high school that provides childcare on school grounds in Delaware. It's totally worth looking into.

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Heather
01/30/2013 8:01pm

Really? Home Schooling? What a cop out! That's just ludicrous and frankly offensive. The other students benefit from learning from her! She is standing up for what's right and owning her responsibilities, she's not looking for an easy way out, she's looking out for what's best for her and her son. I commend her for doing the right thing and finishing her education as well as nursing her child. So many have hang ups with breast feeding because of the "breast" as if its something dirty because society as a whole is dirty! The breast is intended to feed your offspring not for sexual pleasure. People need to get their head out of their asses and move on already.

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Cain
01/31/2013 3:18pm

How about they arrange for to go home during lunch and express or feed the baby? It shouldn't be that big of a burdon if it is what a mother needs to do.

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Leah
01/30/2013 6:57am

this is terrific news that this young mom is wanting to exclusively breastfeed. I'm not surprised by the school though. American culture needs to change and realize the harm we are doing to our children by not attempting to breastfeed. Shame on the US. I will be praying, most definitely. I hope she doesn't back down and withdraw her convictions. Lawyers need to be involved. Yes she is a teen mom, I'm excited that she is maintaining her education, but if they won't back down, then I'd suggest homeschooling the rest of this year. Even is she "falls behind" with her school, she should focus on giving the best for her baby boy.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 7:27am

She will not fall behind. This is a myth that perpetuates gender inequality.

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Amy
01/30/2013 10:11am

How does the potential to fall behind in subjects via homeschooling perpetuate gender inequality? That doesn't even make any sense.

If the school will not back down, homeschooling is certainly a viable option until the school and the board can be taken through the court system and corrected for their obviously ignorant position regarding this mother trying to care for her child.

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 11:14am

Regrettably, this will be my last post on this page, as I am being asked to defend my support for a woman who chooses to breastfeed. Excuses made for/by a woman suggesting that she cannot be successful as a whole person (i.e., exhibiting both her feminine & masculine identities) are limiting, and I am attempting to suggest that we do not have to choose mothering or career, home or the world, etc. We can have both. I wish everyone well on their journey. I am not interested in having a homeschooling debate, and refuse to prove that I am supportive of a topic that I had no idea was part of the issue. Thank you and many blessings!

Bunky Boo
01/30/2013 4:27pm

everyone PLEASE NOTE our school district does have alternative places where she can attend high school. a place that SPECIALIZES in education and help to teen mothers that would allow her to breast feed.... They provide the transportation and its free so trust me they are not casting her out as a misfit....Please do back ground info on this family before jumping the gun here...My question prior to printing this did anyone contact the school for their comment???

Foximaiden
01/30/2013 5:24pm

Eh, I didn't see it that way- the fact of the matter is she's a child with a baby; it's great that she has a good support network, but I don't see it as inconceivable that she would fall behind.

Lisa
01/30/2013 10:54am

(please forgive the typos...I have a sick toddler currently in my lap.) The comment about falling behind because she is being home schooled is a common misconceptions. I have been doing a great amount of research on home schooling as we are considering it for our daughter. Govt studies actually show that children who are home schooled with the appropriate curriculum and have actively involved parents tend to score in the 85%+ on the ACT/SAT scores and are, on avg better prepared for college. They are also more likely to be involved in activities outside the home that encourage better community development and help others in general.

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Erynn
01/30/2013 4:02pm

Home schooled students are also favoured by universities.

Foximaiden
01/30/2013 5:27pm

What do the studies show about teen parents though? She has a bit more going on than the typical homeschool kid.

amy tingen
02/08/2013 12:55pm

yes home schooling is wonderful..i wanted to do it w my older too..my ex wont allow it..but in th i case..she is a young woman..she wants to finish it w her class mates..this is the 21 century and the schools want to still brush preggo moms under the rug..thiis is shitty. does anyone if her mom can leave work to home school her??? prlly not..her mom and dad are prolly paying for alot of the clothes and diapers her son uses..and her mom needs her job..

kelly
01/30/2013 7:08pm

yes, shame all americans...really?? one school makes a bad decision and american culture is to blame. there are actual laws for this and everyone on here, with the exception of one person that knows this girl and has something negative to say are supporting this. please stop blaming america, americans, or american culture for the stupidity of one school, and really the decision of 3 people.

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Gia
01/30/2013 7:00am

What can we do to help?

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 7:28am

Call the school.

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Alicia
01/30/2013 9:24am

Did you speak with someone specifically? Or whoever answers?

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 11:17am

I called early before work and left a message with the school RN. I included my name and phone number and my concern. My plan is to call back later today and ask for an administrator. Oooops. I responded again :)

Sue
01/30/2013 3:06pm

What happened to waiting to have children until you are old enough to be able to care for them. What happened to getting your education, and then getting a job, then something really bad, get married, then have children. Maybe if parents would be parents instead of friends, we wouldn't have so many children having children. Why do my tax dollars have to pay to have a child daycare at the local high school? If you want to play as adults, then you have to learn to live as an adult.

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Donna
01/30/2013 3:22pm

sue I agree with you 100% too many kids are having kids ...is there a room in school where that happens? the sex room!!!!!

Daryl
01/30/2013 3:23pm

The issue here isn't that she had a child, it's that they aren't allowing her to pump for her son who will be at home or in daycare. Your tax dollars are paying for her to pump, no more than they pay for the kids to skip class, vandalize the bathrooms or do drugs during lunch. She is trying to be adult by providing the scientifically-supported best nutrition (and cheapest, she could be on WIC and you could be buying formula) for her son.

Pauline
01/30/2013 3:27pm

You do not know the circumstances of her pregnancy, so what gives you the right to "blame" it on her parents? What if she was raped and instead of chosing abortion she chose to have the baby?! I always wonder if negative people think about all the circumstances before they respond.
Also, the article never even once stated the infant would be in a daycare setting! Besides tax dollars go to a lot worse things than a child being in daycare.
I'm not saying that young teens should start popping out babies for the fun of it, but you have to at least consider that not all of them are "carelss" pregnancies. Obviously this young girl has a head on her shoulders or she wouldn't care so much about going back to school and what is the best for her baby.

Heather
01/30/2013 3:32pm

Your support for this mother and passion for the issue is invigorating.

Erica
01/30/2013 3:36pm

Teens have been getting pregnant for centuries, nothing new here. And actually, teen pregnancy rates have dropped 44% since 1991; that's a pretty good amount. I agree, kids don't need to be having kids, but this isn't a new thing, and more people nowadays ARE getting their education first. I'm just glad this teen is taking responsibility and providing the healthiest thing to her child.

Sally Sue
01/30/2013 3:55pm

I know and what kind of example are we setting for the other students that go to that school. Its no ok to have unprotected sex at 14/15 years old. If the girls mother acted like a mother when she was having sex then this wouldnt be an issue in Delaware right now. Thats why Delaware has a school called DAPA that provides an education and daycare at the same facility for teen moms to help them continue their education along with educating them on how to take care of their babies.

Jen
01/30/2013 4:06pm

This is a very selfish and ignorant comment. You don't know her story or circumstances, do you? This is a young lady with the support of her family who wants what is best for her baby boy! Your tax dollars also go to repeat abortions, formula for unfortunate mothers who can't afford it and the like. Not all of us lived your perfect "white picket fence" fantasy of finishing high school, going to some prestigious university and falling in love with a med student, finishing school and THEN having a family! I had my first child as a teenager too. This was before i had even finished high school. If i had no support from my family I'd have been screwed. NOW I'm a college graduate with a 97% average, and I'm married with 4 kids and i work full time. If my tax dollars are going to help responsible teenage parents like this, then i feel completely honored!

Elaine harvey
01/30/2013 5:21pm

How dare people judge teen moms like this im a teen mom i was 16 and now im 30 and my parents had no dam clue what i was doing they worked and i was hanging out with a really bad people behind there backs and sue you dont know about anything this is about her being able to brestfeed her baby not about her being a teen mom and only god can judge people you do not have athat rite to judge so before you judge teen moms think about it next time

Elaine harvey
01/30/2013 5:25pm

How dare people judge teen moms like this im a teen mom i was 16 and now im 30 and my parents had no dam clue what i was doing they worked and i was hanging out with a really bad people behind there backs and sue you don't know about anything this is about her being able to Breastfeed her baby not about her being a teen mom and only god can judge people you do not have that rite to judge so before you judge teen moms think about it next time

Ellie Morris
01/30/2013 5:45pm

Why should I pay to educate your children when all your going to do is turn around & make them narrow minded bigots such as yourself?

In the country we have certain rights granted to all. Not just to the people who agree with you politically & spiritually. Simple fact is our tax dollars pay for programs we don't like.

For you it is the educations of a teen mother.

For me it is bombs & wars that kill our youth that our government then discards like trash.

And let me guess? Your also against planned parenthood, real sex education in the schools, & free access to birth control by teens & low income people.

I'm right aren't I? Don't like teen pregnancy? Then allow programs that prevent it. Or maybe her religion stated no birth control. Maybe she was another dumb teen who made a dumb choice with the wrong guy but who now has done some serious growing up & is taking responsibility for herself and needs family & community help to achieve her goals of not becoming a welfare statistic.

And before you say you don't get any community help that's rubbish. You drive a car? Stop at red lights? Get speeding tickets? Get a public school education yourself & for your kids?

We are all in this together, it's about time we stopped fighting each other and ask ourselves how can we help each other. How would I want to be treated if this was me? Or my daughter?

If you seriously would wish to be insulted, degraded, marginalized, & bullied by the education system & state government & everyone on FB ~ then by all means continue being a narrow minded ass!

And YES!! If I was being a dumb ass I WOULD want people to call me out on my bs!

Yolanda
01/30/2013 7:04am

Take them on, with the law if necessary. they are undermining her rights and responsibility as a mother and as a learner. This will in the end make her a more confident mother too. good luck

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Crystal
01/30/2013 4:38pm

Does anyone know the phone number for the Bayhealth wellness center that's on Site there?

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Susan
01/30/2013 4:53pm

http://www.spartansuper.blogspot.com/2013/01/breast-feeding-at-school.html?m=1
Know your facts

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant)
01/30/2013 7:09am

I just left a message with the school RN in support of Ms. Belong, and I encourage others to do the same. THIS IS A CIVIL RIGHTS ISSUE.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/30/2013 7:12am

Lake Forest High School
(Felton DE)
302-284-9291

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01/30/2013 8:32am

Thanks for all your support here, Rachel! We will not let her down without a fight. She is being so strong and amazing.

Kellie
01/30/2013 9:45am

I am a breastfeeding mom and even if I wasn't, I support it ALL THE WAY!! I am going to call the school, too!!

Racheal
01/30/2013 9:46am

msg left for nurse, just stating the facts (not asking for a return call)

kelly
01/30/2013 10:55am

i just called the school too! this disgusts me to the core. what has our society come to? people actually think it's okay to tell a mother she cannot breastfeed!!!!! eff that!

Susan
01/30/2013 4:54pm

http://www.spartansuper.blogspot.com/2013/01/breast-feeding-at-school.html?m=1
You should know your facts before creating drama

01/30/2013 8:42pm

The facts to me look like the girl requested accommodation for pumping, got some ignorant response that she should just breastfeed after school hours because otherwise her peers would tease her, and after unwanted media attention, the school has changed their tune.

Lisa
01/30/2013 11:48pm

I live in South Carolina and I will call the school too. I have family in DE. Actually a lot of family there and one of my cousins whom I grew up with in NY, until her family moved to DE and my family moved to SC, was a teen mom who finished high school with good grades and is now raising five children, three of which are her husbands from a previous marriage, and let me tell you she is one of the BEST MOTHERS IN THE WORLD! All five of those children she treats very equal and loves them all the same. I truly believe being a teen mom made it easier for her to be a good mother to all of her children because she had to go through pure hell with the father of her first child and then she met her husband, with whom she is now living a very happy life raising their five children together.

Lass King
01/30/2013 9:38am

Right on Sista!!! I wrote a post a little further down because I didn't see this! She has rights!!!

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:48am

This is a civil rights issue! I'm calling and emailing!

Assitant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

Staff Directory: http://www.lf.k12.de.us/lfhs/index2.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=147

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:48am

This is a civil rights issue! I'm calling and emailing!

Assistant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

Staff Directory: http://www.lf.k12.de.us/lfhs/index2.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=147

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:48am

This is a civil rights issue! I'm calling and emailing!

Assistant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:49am

This is a civil rights issue! I'm calling and emailing!
Assistant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:49am

This is a civil rights issue! I'm calling and emailing!
Assistant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

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lisa RN
01/30/2013 11:00am

Even with the civil rights issue, it's a human rights issue. I couldn't imagine going 8-9 hours without pumping when I breast fed. I would have been in tears from the pain alone. Not only the fact that it would decrease her milk supply and make it impossible for her to exclusively breast feed. It is horrible.

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01/30/2013 7:29am

It is really important that we promote breastfeeding for all women, and especially teen mothers. The benefits of breastfeeding are far greater than the puritanical ideas of the school. Enough is enough. This idea that there is no place for breastfeeding is asinine. Breastfeeding saves $ for the breastfeeder, healthcare costs, long tern and short term. America grow up, no woman is breastfeeding to show off her breasts, to be sexual, etc.. If as a species we were not breastfeed, we as the human race would now be extinct and this wouldn't be an issue.

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Demetria
01/30/2013 7:30am

Oh, and thanks for putting this article up. It is a story that deserves to be told.

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01/30/2013 8:29am

It's the least I can do!

Julie Ham
01/30/2013 7:36am

Way to go for standing up. Thanks, also, to people like Heather Felker, who can stand up with them. It angers me to think of how many other rights of our children get violated and remain unseen, such as, use of the bathroom, use of the nurse's office, hand washing, a relaxed eating environment, a safe place to exercise or play. Thank God my child is finally away from that! You can stay and try to change things and I realize someone has to, but, what a relief to not have to live in it every day anymore! Follow your motherly instict and best wishes.

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01/30/2013 7:57am

I bet Polytech Adult Ed would accommodate her and she wouldn't have to be apart from her son all day, she would also probably graduate sooner!

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01/30/2013 8:59am

She does have a few options, such as that, DAPI, homeschooling, etc... but those are her decisions to make.

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Stephanie
01/30/2013 6:03pm

I don't understand why everyone is pushing that she attend DAPI. I mean, she has a support system, she is not asking the school to provide day care, she is asking for a place to pump. That have a place for the teachers and by law they are required to do the same for her.

Frankie
01/30/2013 8:09am

i dont believe that lake forest is doin this. i went to lake and never thought that this would be an outcome for young mothers. I now have 2 kids and if i was still in high school going through what she is i would def fight this. I would not let this go without everyone being told how she is being treated. Best of luck to you i hope you get to do what you need to for you and your baby boy. FYI: most young mothers never finish school (i didnt) but the fact she is still tryin to finish and they are putting her through this is crazy!

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Kate Brown
01/30/2013 8:16am

Is there something we can do to support this courageous young mom? Do we need lawyers to speak to the school? Breastfeeding professionals? I am a doula in Delaware and have many contacts. Please let me know if there's something I can do.

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01/30/2013 8:25am

For now, call the school!

Lake Forest High School
(Felton DE)
302-284-9291

I will be keeping everyone updated as soon as I hear more news.

And email me, I'm a student doula, I'd love to connect with more doula's in the area. (lol)

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Katie
01/30/2013 10:03am

Is a nurse-in being organized?!?!?!? I'm not sure how that would work on School Grounds, but is there somewhere near the school or right outside the school grounds that would be obvious that there are people supporting her rights to nurse and pump????

Shirley Min
01/30/2013 11:53am

I'm a reporter for WHYY in Wilmington and would love to speak with Jaielyn. Would you be able to pass along my email address to her?

kerstin J Davies
01/30/2013 3:27pm

I think we should also be calling the district office. If the school isn't offering remedy to this situation then their higher authority os the district.

01/30/2013 10:10am

Kate, Im also a doula. Check out EUPHORICBIRTH.COM

I'm the leader of the new Delaware Birth Network, in the future we are looking to host a "meet the doulas" night. Im also hosting a doula training workshop in May. In the future I plan to start a doula-based community program. Please email me at cali4niachef@msn.com!

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01/30/2013 8:24am

Stop stop! Feed your child. It's not only the best ,if you can do it, it also helps you stay healthy. BREASTFEED now breastfeed FOREVER! ! Together we stand! We support you!

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01/30/2013 8:33am

We provide educational resources so establishments welcome nursing mothers. Please let us know if we can help! We can put the word out on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FamilyFriendlyBusiness
We can post about your blog on our page. We could contact the school.
Thank you so much for covering this story!

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01/30/2013 8:39am

That would be fabulous!! (runs to check out your page)

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01/30/2013 1:55pm

We have the documents all ready to go!

Linda
01/30/2013 9:23am

I just called the school and left a voicemail in support of Ms. Belong. I really hope the school changes.

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jordan
01/30/2013 8:38am

I am furious at these adults behavior! I applaud this girls determination to do what is best for her child even when others are making it as difficult as they can for her. Anyone who knows anything about breastfeeding knows she cannot go the whole school day without pumping or breastfeeding. Not only is this bad for her milk supply but if somehow she was able to maintain it the poor girl would be engorged to the point of it hurting and leaking and possibly get plugged ducts. Shame on that school nurse, shame on all of those poor excuses for educators, it seems to me they need some educating themselves!

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Jeannie
01/30/2013 1:18pm

I nursed all my children. One of my first thoughts was oh my the pain this poor mom will feel if she cant pump.I had plugged ducts at one point NOT fun and VERY painful.
On another note....Thanks to all for being kind in your responses to this young mother.She needs our support.

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Laura Ivansons
01/30/2013 8:38am

Let's be honest...this policy will FORCE her to wean and give bottles. Here supply will be nothing if she can't pump and/or nurse for 8 hours.

I am always amused on how "medical professionals" are the very first to undermine the relationship of a nursing mom...regardless of age. Breast is best and if her peers make fun of her..perhaps that is because the school is not doing a proper job of explaining the benefits of breastfeeding.

Perhaps she should do what the school suggests on their page http://www.lf.k12.de.us/lfhs/

And call report this BULLYING AND CRIME to
Delaware Department of Justice
Bullying Prevention & School Crime Contact (Ombudsperson)
1-800-220-5414

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jordan
01/30/2013 8:44am

I agree this is absolutely bullying and they should be prosecuted for it

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Susan DiNatale
01/30/2013 8:38am

THis i not only illegal but puts the health of her baby in danger.. so we need to do a nurse in somewhere near the school and invite the press...

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Laura Ivansons
01/30/2013 8:39am

Here is the school facebook page...if you want to leave a comment in support of Jailyns LEGAL right to breastfeed her child: https://www.facebook.com/lfhsspartans

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Karey Martinez
01/30/2013 9:52am

It seems they took their facebook page down. I went to try and go and comment on it and when I put in the address in my browser it just takes me to my home page.

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Amanda
01/30/2013 4:27pm

The page is still there:
https://www.facebook.com/lfhsspartans?sk=wall&filter=2

Emily Kirsch
01/30/2013 8:40am

I just called the school and left a respectful but assertive message on both the main voicemail and the school nurse's voicemail. I live close enough that I can participate in a nurse-in/demonstration/protest (and I'm more than willing to do so).

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Kim
01/30/2013 9:27am

While I am equally as appalled at the school's blatant disregard for motherhood and Jailyn's rights, I certainly hope people are not considering a nurse-in on school grounds. It is (supposedly) a secure environment, and regardless of the injustice that initiated a demonstration, as a parent I would be horrified that "strangers" had infiltrated an environment where my child was to be protected. We just don't live in an age where that would be acceptable.

However, very pleased that others were thoughtful enough to share the contact information for this school, and I can be counted amongst those who will not take this quietly.

I hope Jailyn and Betty will be directed here and gather strength from this lovely support.

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Kate
01/30/2013 10:21am

School grounds are public property not "a secure environment" as you say. Any member of the public has the right to enter a school at any time that it is open provided the stop at the front office to "check in" (the school does have the right to insist that they are accompanied by a member of the staff while in the school). A notice the this effect is supposed to be clearly posted at the entrance to every school.

Dara
01/30/2013 10:43am

what do you mean, "that would be acceptable?"

I wouldn't expect the school to let people wander the halls nursing...however, I wouldn't expect the school to do what it is apparently choosing to do either.

And I am a public school teacher too...currently on maternity leave and nursing my 3 week old daughter, as I did her older sister and two older brothers.

Christina A.
01/30/2013 11:30am

You can do the nurse-in on the school grounds, not specifically inside the school. And I absolutely think one should be held!

Jenna
01/30/2013 1:27pm

There can always be a nurse in at a sporting event or board meeting

Trae
01/30/2013 7:51pm

I can't believe you all are seriously taking about doing a "nurse in" at a school! Wow! Just stop and think about what you think that will really accomplish. At what point does your right to nurse become more important than my child's right to an education? Because your idea will cause a disruption to my child's day, distract the teachers and risk a security problem (hello, you all are aware that there are crazy people attracted to events like this that try to take advantage of the disruption and confusion). Again what is the point exactly...right, it will accomplish nothing other than waste time out of the day of hundreds of students.

I breastfed both of my kids and support the right of the Mom and baby to breastfeed...however, you all sound like a bunch of nuts. Please go back and read your posts with as much objectivity as possible and you might see why I say that.

Seriously? SMH at the sheer craziness of the posts on here!

Laura Ivansons
01/30/2013 8:51am

I just left a comment on the school facebook page. Go comment to or comment to my post and let them know how this is SO wrong!

Post it publicly on your facebook wall and encourage others to do the same! Let's support this momma!

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01/30/2013 9:00am

Thanks for your support Laura!! Momma's like you will make a huge difference around here!

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Laura Ivansons
01/30/2013 8:54am

https://www.facebook.com/lfhsspartans Sorry forgot to link to facebook page!

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Susie Mermaid
01/30/2013 9:53am

Looks Like they took down that FB page.

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Crystal
01/30/2013 9:57am

I think they've taken the FB page down because I can't get to it.

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Danica Beebe
01/30/2013 12:47pm

It seems they have taking down their fb page. It seems they were not expecting such a large public support for Jaielyn.

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Lass King
01/30/2013 8:59am

Call the ACLU, this is discrimination! I had a breast feeding case that I won and they represented me. It was about being kicked out of my work, which happened to be a show room in New York City, I was a buyer for a store. Mothers have a right to feed there hungry children. I support you and salute you. This cute little baby is lucky to have you as a Mama. Don't give up. This is only the first of many battles you will fight for your child. Look how your Mom is still fighting for you. It is what we do as mothers. They are breaking the law. You have a right to breast feed your child AND you have a right to get an education!!! Try not to get too stressed out, stress is not good for milk production. Relax, this will work its way out, there is no way you are losing this one! I can't even believe they would doubt that you are taking a break for pumping?????? Really???? Apparently they have no idea what this level of dedication takes!!! It's not like you are giving your child formula so you can park it with your mother and go out and party??? Is this what they want, The "normal" teen parent experience???? Breast feeding is a huge commitment!!! This makes my blood boil, I could go on and on. I wouldn't have believed tender, caring, loving, nursing mothers would have to go through this if I hadn't experienced it myself!!!!!
CALL THE ACLU IN YOUR STATE, THINGS WILL START CHANGING FAST!!!!! Do it today!!!! They are awesome!!!
I started getting satisfaction within a week!
In New York State, they have a group of lawyers on a task force, because this problem is so prevalent!!!!
My case was the second one to be settled in this country, we as breastfeeding mothers have rights!!! My lawyer was willing to take it to the supreme court if necessary, she was awesome!!! Your baby has rights!!!
American Civil Liberties Union-THIS IS DISCRIMINATION!!!

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Jennifer L Williams
01/30/2013 9:18am

I just sent an email to all of those listed. I applaud this young mother for making such wonderful choices for her child. Do not back down! You have every right and are doing a great job! YOu had your baby, are raising your baby, breastfeeding and returning to school. Good for you. What a great example or how to take responsibility!

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01/30/2013 9:19am

Thank you so much for your support. I will make sure this family sees this comment, and the rest of course!

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Danica Beebe, Student Nurse-Midwife, BSN, RN
01/30/2013 9:01am

Discrimination and Bullying. It is hard enough to get teen mom to want to breastfeed, now they are making it extremely difficult for those want to! Horrible. The nurse at this school should be ashamed of herself.

School nurse's email: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us
the dean of Student's email: chmorris@lf.k12.de.us
Principal's email: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Assistant Principals' email: twmorris@lf.k12.de.us and jdberry@lf.k12.de.us

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Ashley Anglada
01/30/2013 9:06am

Good for her! There needs to be more support for young parents who want to do what's best for them and their babies. Your opinion on whether or not she is right DOES NOT MATTER. Denying her something as simple as a place to pump milk could potentially lead to her dropping out of school. What needs to be done, should be done so she can finish school and have a chance to better provide for herself and her new family.
I am outraged at the war on women's bodies that we are seeing now. It's not right, AT ALL. It's time we stand up for what is right and FAIR.

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Carlor
01/30/2013 9:09am

This is when you exercise your right to homeschool your student. I don't know if someone mentioned it or not. But you would not have to deal with the institution and all that craziness. Check out the state laws on homeschooling your student. Best of success to this teen mom. She is a wonderful girl and mom.

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Racheal
01/30/2013 10:20am

I homeschool my kids and think it's a great thing.... however, I also think that her going into homeschooling would send the wrong message. The school would only find a sense of satisfaction as they would not have to be 'bothered' by her nursing. She needs to stand her ground, not shy away and let them bully her.

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Hillarie
01/30/2013 9:13am

Good for you Jaielyn. No matter how hard it may eat don't give up. I was a teen mom but unlike most I made necessary sacrifices and worked twice as hard (and had a great support system like it saunas like you do from your mom;) and I am now self employed, married to a wonderful man (who adopted my daughter), have a college degree, own my own home and have a second baby girl all at age 24. Know that you live your life for your son now and don't stop fighting for what's best for him. Homeschooling is always an option too. That's what I did and breasted for 12months :) also I schooled all year long and finished my junior and senior years in one and graduated with extra credits. I don't know if that's an option for you but it worked amazingly well for me and I could nurse as I schooled :)

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Heather
01/30/2013 9:16am

I am going to email the administrators of the school in support of Jaielyn's right to be accommodated for nursing or pumping. Here's a link to the staff directory if you wish to do so, as well.

http://www.lf.k12.de.us/lfhs/index2.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=147

Also, if you read the bios posted by each of the principal/assistant principals, they make statements that can be directly used to support precisely why they should accommodate this young woman!

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 9:21am

I email all of them, see the fb pg is lighting up. good!

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Annie delaVergne
01/30/2013 9:21am

I feel her pain. The director of my school (Mitchells hairstyling acadamy in Cary,NC) sent me home yesterday because I needed to pump before taking a client.

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Lass King
01/30/2013 9:36am

Look at my comment above, this is discrimination! Call the ACLU! Not ok in any way shape or form!!! I support you also!!!

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Elena Pearson
01/30/2013 9:42am

You need to check the laws for the state of North Carolina. Your employer may be breaking the law.

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Elizabeth
01/30/2013 9:25am

So good for her for making the best choice for her baby, and I feel what she's going through! I had my firstst the end of my junior year and formula was not an option for me. I returned as a senior after summer and was able to get through the day without pumping and my body just got used to the schedule. I always breastfed him when I was home, and never had supply issues. But, I feel that if she wants to pump she should have the right to, and the staff at that school is being ridiculous. She is having an adult situation that needs to e handled in an adult-like manner.

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Tara
01/30/2013 9:26am

Take that pump to school an pump! They can't do anything about it

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Kryzde
01/30/2013 9:32am

just to let everyone know the school is now deleting all comments posted on their facebook :(

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Emily
01/30/2013 9:35am

It looks like they pulled the facebook page all together!

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Ginger Chun
01/30/2013 9:33am

I think she should be allowed to pump. But I am pretty sure teachers are considered exempt employees and schools are not required to accommodate them if they are breastfeeding according to labor laws. So only the other law would apply.

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Racheal
01/30/2013 10:22am

Why would teachers be exempt? that makes no sense. The law is the law is the law.

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Robyn Rawls
01/30/2013 10:31am

"Exempt" under the FLSA only indicates the employee is exempt from provisions for overtime pay. It does not exempt employees from labor laws pertaining to break time or state requirements for medical needs or in this case specifically provisions for nursing or pumping. I would say if Ms. Belong is entitled to study hall periods or may leave the school for lunch this would be adequate time for pumping. As far as storage, expressed breast milk should be ok unrefrigerated for up to 8 hours and if she keeps a cooler with an ice pack in her locker she would be fine.

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Michelle
01/30/2013 12:29pm

Salaried employees (Exempt) as well as individuals whose employers have less than 50 people (I could be wrong about the number) are not protected under the same laws. I can't remember if it varies by state or if it is federal but I do know that there are many teachers that also have issues with being given time to be able to pump if their free period and lunch aren't at the right times for it.

I agree that it should be fine in a cooler with an ice pack for the day.

Robyn Rawls
02/01/2013 3:25am

Michelle, you are confusing head count requirements under FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) and FLSA job classifications. Yes, individuals who work for employers with >50 employees are not entitled to job-protected family leave under the provisions of FMLA, but that has nothing to do with exempt status. "Exempt" under the law has NOTHING to do with break times.

Robyn Rawls
02/01/2013 3:39am

http://www.flsa.com/coverage.html

Mandated break times are determined by each individual State Department of Labor. If exempt employees (what the layman refers to as a "salaried" employee) were exempt from mandated periods of rest then in theory exempt employees could be forced to work for days without any rest. All states have provisions for periods of rest.

Teachers fall under a special class of employee under Labor Laws, due to the nature of Education Law and the union shop environment that public teachers work under. It is up to the local unions to create a contract that teachers are goverened by. Their break times are determined by CONTRACT, not by state labor laws. So if there are "many teachers that also have issues with being given time to be able to pump if their free period and lunch aren't at the right times for it" then their issue is with their CONTRACT, not with their "right" to break. Given the nature of the job, teachers cannot go to the bathroom, take personal calls, etc. (including pumping) outside of the contracted times that they agree to when they VOTE ON and RATIFY their contracts each contract period. It has nothing to do with the school district (employer) providing this time. They are not required to, it is determined by the union. The teacher is responsible for their time management within the parameters of prep/break time stipulated in their contract.

Robyn Rawls
02/01/2013 3:43am

My last comment on this is that Ms. Belong is NOT an employee of the school district. Being a full-time student does not make her eligible for protection under state labor laws that would provide provisions for pumping. This situation is goverened by the State Department of Education. Delaware would be setting a horrible precedent if they even mention that under State Labor Law provisions relating to periods of rest and pumping in the work place in making a decision in this matter. If they blur the lines and call the course of obtaining an education "employment" they would be implying that students enrollment and attendance at school would be compensable time under the law.

01/30/2013 9:34am

I am so glad to see you have so much support. Do not give up your fight to do what's best for your baby! Breast milk helps keep your baby healthy which means less days of school you will be missing to care for a sick child! I applaud such a young mother for taking such an adult stand!

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Kryzde
01/30/2013 9:35am

now it seems they have removed their facebook altogether... it can no longer be found at that address.... please contact the local news stations in your area! The school cannot hide that!

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01/30/2013 9:38am

I've worked with many teens in the Philadelphia region who were able to sustain breastfeeding when returning to high school. Some pumped in a nurses' office, others in a teacher's lounge. Some had the baby brought to them at lunch time. This high school needs to change its culture and be proud of its student. I've met many heads of organizations and health care professionals that had babies when they were teens. They went on to build full careers. The 30+ teens that I followed for 4 years after they delivered all finished their educations. The other amazing thing was that none of them had babies again, unless they choose to do so. Ms Belong is doing an AWESOME job!

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t
01/30/2013 9:40am

They seem to have removed their fb page.

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Tricia
01/30/2013 9:41am

It appears they blocked their page so we can't comment anymore. What cowards!

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Shannon
01/30/2013 9:43am

I'm outraged about this. I can't imagine what this young momis going through. No one should have to fight to be a good mom and get an education. I went to make a comment on the school's facebook page but can't seem to find it. it's as thought they have closed it....

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Katie
01/30/2013 9:43am

FB page down: mission accomplished! Anyone know the superintendents email?

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rene
01/30/2013 10:08am

Don't know his email but his does have a blog - http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/

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Amber
01/30/2013 12:09pm

He published a post about the subject on this blog that was posted.

Joanna Sain
01/30/2013 12:52pm

The super's blog post sounds reasonable. They do not have anything set up for nursing students, but he states that they would do their best to accommodate any student who requested a private place to nurse. Her being responsible for storage (which is quite easily accomplished with a cooler) makes sense, also. If she wanted to bring a mini-fridge to school to plug in and leave, I would imagine they'd cooperate with that as well.
I don't know if they changed their original stance, or if their original statement was misunderstood, but it sounds like she can do it if she wants to.

Sarah Brown
01/30/2013 9:44am

I called as well with a respectful message.

Miss Belong, you are not alone, love! We are ALL behind you 100%. I know I can speak for thousands when I say that we are PROUD to add you to the ranks of breast feeding WARRIORS and your son is blessed to have you for a momma!
I am a Nurse and this woman should KNOW BETTER.

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Sarah
01/30/2013 9:45am

Saddens me that she has to go through this on top of everything else! Every mother (esp Breast feeding ones) need support! Go Jailyn! I'm so proud of you!! From one breast feeding mom to another!! Hang in there and fight for your right to breast feed!!!!

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01/30/2013 9:45am

NursinginPublic.com is following this story. Please let us know if there is anything else we can do. I've written a piece here: http://www.nursinginpublic.com/anti-nip/delaware-teen-mom-denied-breastfeeding-accommodations-momma-trauma/

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 9:47am

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Thanks-For-The-Mammaries/171678509623241

This a great support page on FB for breastfeeding moms!!!! Mrs. Belong, please send you daughter over for support and love! And anyone who wants to talk about this issue can come by as well!

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megan
01/30/2013 9:50am

Perhaps someone should make a page in support of Jailyn.

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Rene
01/30/2013 9:51am

I went to their facebook page and was redirected to my own. I suppose they have temporarily shut it down. But I did find their twitter handle - https://twitter.com/lfhs_spartans And will tweet them on her behalf! Thank you for bringing this to our attention. I had heard nothing about it.

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Jessica
01/30/2013 10:49am

Are they deleting the tweets or has no one done it yet? I don't see any, and my account is down for some reason so I can't do anything myself.

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Sarah O
01/30/2013 9:52am

I would highly suggest contacting the National Women's Law Center. http://www.nwlc.org/ and to look at their 2012 Parenting Fact Sheet. You may be covered under Title IX. This covers discrimination based on pregnancy and the post-partum period, but it could also cover breastfeeding.

Also, US Department of Health and Human Services has a site, womenshealth.gov that has a breastfeeding fact sheet that directly contradicts the recommendation of the school nurse.

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Melanie Cragway
01/30/2013 9:58am

So proud of you Jaielyn! As a breastfeeding mom, I commend you for making such a smart decision and not letting others sway you! I just sent an e-mail and I will be calling later on!

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Stephanie Harkness moxley
01/30/2013 10:00am

I was a substitute teacher when I was nursing my child. I just used the teachers bathroom to pump. The new pumps are not noisy at all. This needs to be stopped! This young lady (and she is most definitely a lady!) is being a responsible young adult. Please keep us posted as to what happens! And send our support from South Carolina! I will repost on my Fb page, too!

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Crystal
01/30/2013 10:00am

I think they've taken their FB page down because I can't get to it, just takes me back to my page.

I was thinking you might want to bring this up to The Leaky Boob https://www.facebook.com/TheLeakyBoob?ref=stream. She's a very popular blogger and has breastfed all her children. I'm sure she could get your story out there.

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Ash
01/30/2013 10:20am

Jessica is already on top of it! That's how I found out about this article! TLB is AWESOME!

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Carri Story
01/30/2013 10:03am

I have reported this on two of my groups fb pages. Going to be emailing the school.

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maria-luisa franks
01/30/2013 10:03am

What a joke the school are, she is doing amazing going back to school and wanting to bf. I tried to go on the schools facebook page, but it doesn't exist at present. I expect the site has crashed due to all of us. I'm in,the uk and shall spread the word x

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Irene Eid RN, SNM (student nurse midwife)
01/30/2013 10:05am

So much I could say, so much already said. That a RN takes pride in such behavior, she on her. The school's behavior is illegal and despicable, some way to teach your students, "yes there are laws to protect us, yet we choose to do whatever suits us." Nice! Take them on girl, are a great and fantastic mom, doing what is best for your child even if that means going against the flow, taking the hard road, keep it up, do what you must to protect your child. Don't let these people neglect your child, stand up for his rights, he needs you and your support. I will call the school, email them and post on their Facebook, the best of luck to you.

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Chaiah Jacobson
01/31/2013 7:38am

Exactly! So, the superintendent thinks that this young woman should not be allowed to pump/store breast milk at school due to storage/contamination issues? I suppose that can be "justified" because teachers who have newborns can take 3 mos of maternity leave & that avoids the need for them to pump/store breast milk at school. The time it takes to pump is about 15-20 minutes (including setup & cleanup. The milk could be stored in an individual soft cooler, marked w/ names of mother/baby, placed by school nurse into locking medication fridge, and given back to nursing mother when she leaves school each day. That school nurse and those like her are certainly part of the problem & not solution. This young mother & her baby should receive all the support we can give them.

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01/30/2013 10:05am

We should start a Change.org petition or something. This is so messed up!

Maybe one of her teacher's would offer up her classroom if the nurse is being so obstinate?

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Amanda
01/30/2013 10:07am

Wow! Congratulations to this mother for standing up for her rights. She has the right to an education, AND the right to supply her baby with breastmilk. Keep fighting, mama, and do what you know is best for your baby!

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Tiffany
01/30/2013 10:10am

WOW!! proud of this teen mom and all the support being shown on this page!! I say go above the schools head go till you can't go anyfurther (my state would be super Intendant, then school board) even take it to the media if your willing it is every mother's right to be able to breast feed if she chooses!!!! I know when I was in high school the lesson didn't take the whole class time and we also had a couple of easier classes, there is no reason she can't pick a class in the morning and afternoon and go to some private office and pump the last 20 minutes or so of class and also at lunch, other than them not wanting to give up there office space. and I think her breastfeeding or pumping at school would set a great example for other teen girls and show them with a little determination you can provide the best for your baby

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Tifany
01/30/2013 10:17am

also, I pump at work and rather than storing my baby's milk in the nasty breakroom fridge, I have an insulated cooler bag with ice packs to keep the milk cool till i get off work, so if you do this and keep it in your locker then that solves them having to store the milk for you

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Rachel
01/30/2013 10:11am

Good luck, Jaielyn!! You are among a long line of women who do not choose the easy path but who choose the right path! Because of your actions, other nursing students may be more likely to try to continue to nurse while in school and may be more successful at continuing to breastfeed their children. You should be proud of yourself for this!

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Aubrey
01/30/2013 10:14am

I agree that she should be provided a private place to pump. But she could also get a nursing cover and a hands free pumping bra and find a plug somewhere in the lunch room. I pumped at work this way in full sight of my colleagues so that I could work at the same time. It's brazen, but it eliminates her dependence on the school's cooperation.

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Rene
01/30/2013 10:14am

We can tweet the school - @lfhs_spartans We should get one of those hashtag things going - clearly I know nothing about twitter but I do know that once something starts trending it tends to get national news!

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Donna
01/30/2013 10:16am

I would encourage Jailyn to push to pump when she needs to but remember that refrigeration can be easily solved by a good lunchbox and some ice packs. Reasonably I don't believe the school should be responsible for providing milk storage and do you really want to trust someone else for the proper handling of milk for the baby? This is disgraceful and I really hope this will be resolved quickly and without a great deal of trauma to the new mom.

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Alexandra
01/30/2013 10:17am

I am 20 years old with a three year old daughter. I choose not to nourish my daughter properly by giving her the breast milk I was able to produce because (even in a school with a teen parent group and daycare center to breast feed in) I thought I would be looked at like an outcast. I only saw one out of the 15 mothers I became close with breastfeed, even though we had all of the support in the world to do it, and information readily available on the positive effects. Jaielyn, I would like to say on behalf of young mothers everywhere, THANK YOU! You are doing something even my rebellious, hard headed self couldn't do. You are sticking up for your rights and the rights of your child. Your child deserves so much in this world and good nutrition will only be the beginning of your battles. I am happy to say that my daughter was nourished by formula, but I still regret the bonding and health I could've established by breastfeeding. It takes a strong young woman to fight for what you are fighting for and you have mine support and I am sure the support of many people in your community. Cause a uproar and stick up for that handsome little boy, and don't ever stop!!!

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Jeanette Ransing
01/30/2013 11:47am

This is the one comment that braught tears to my eyes. Against all odds we love and care for our children the best we can.

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Tamerin Clark
01/30/2013 10:19am

How about using an office in the counseling center. They are private, not being used 100 % of the time, and should have an outlet to plug in and a chair for her to sit. Won't distract anyone else, or be "too noisy".

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Crystal
01/30/2013 10:21am

Also, I know I live in AL but, I brought this to the attention of some of the news stations down here and a radio station. Not sure if they'll mention it but, I sent it to them.

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Natalie Smith
01/30/2013 10:23am

What would be less embarrassing, her taking pumping breaks or her breasts leaking through her shirt? Pumping or feeding is MEDICALLY necessary, if she is to continue to produce milk and avoid the risk of mastitis. It's like telling someone they can't go pee during an 8 hour school day. That milk is going to come out one way or another. I applaud her for making the mature decision to breast feet. If I was her mother, I would tell her to do it anyway, and when they tried to punish her for it, I would sue the ever living crap out of the school district!

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01/30/2013 10:25am

That's exactly what I would do!! Bring my pump! Asked to be excused and pump somewhere, if they won't allow me, pump in the room! They need to know she is serious and will stand her ground! And they will soon see all the support she has! Bc breastfeeding out children is not a crime and shouldn't be frowned upon! Rather they should be patting her on the back for having such drive to breastfeeding her son, bc we all know it gets hard at times.

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Emily Kirsch
01/30/2013 10:26am

Please "like" our facebook page in support of Jaielyn!

https://www.facebook.com/WeSupportJaielynBelongsRightToFeedHerBaby

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Justin
01/30/2013 10:29am

Take them to court, Delaware state law say you as a mother who is breast feeding have the right to do so in a public place or at work with the proper accommodations. In not letting you do so is a direct violation of your civil rights. You have a civil law suit on your hands, and this is not only on that you can win, you can get money from this lawsuit. Money that you can use to help your son in the long run.

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Dearyg
01/30/2013 10:35am

Called a local news station! Fingers crossed that this gets resolved and acts as a precedence for future incidents across the country!

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Kate
01/30/2013 10:35am

Good for her to stand up for your rights as a breastfeeding mom! I had a similar situation at a small local business where a female manager (gasp...yup that's right) told me I couldn't pump in the dining room bc it is supposed to be family friendly (AND I was covered up too).

Kate, army wife and lactivist

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Arly Helm
01/30/2013 10:39am

The team of school staff who made this decision for her was not complete. After all, there was no source of information about breastfeeding: its importance, its maintenance, its legal status. Naturally, without information, they created a situation where they were just guessing at what would be best for this student. Time for them to take responsibility for their oversight and bring at least one IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant) on board to help them draft a new plan (which will, btw, include pumping, their objections to it being without foundation in reality).

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Lucy
01/30/2013 10:41am

I applaud Jaielyn for standing up for her right to breast feed/pump for her baby. It's law that she be given time and place, the school is responsible to provide this.The sooner the school authorities realize this Jaielyn can focus on her right to an education AT SCHOOL,and not be pressured into home school

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tomi
01/30/2013 10:43am

so I tweeted with the hashtag #supportjaielynBelong
We can all use that

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Em Rinke
01/30/2013 10:45am

I just emailed the DE ACLU. Please contact them here aclu@aclu-de.org and include a link to this story.

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:46am

This young lady is MY HERO!!!! And I'm calling and emailing the school. Hope you will join me.
302-284-9291
Assitant Principal John Berry: jdberry@lf.k12.de.us
Principal John Filicicchia: jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us
Nurse Denise Blades: dmblades@lf.k12.de.us

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Laura Ivansons
01/30/2013 10:47am

Facebook page link removed but they have twitter too...they can not escape technology!
https://twitter.com/lfhs_spartans

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William
01/30/2013 10:47am

Not that this would be distracting to the other students trying to learn. Ya know, the ones that didn't up and have a baby at what looks like 16.

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 10:58am

Oh yes! Those poor kids being distracted! I bet they'd all have to crowd into the gym and watch her pump!

Seriously. Heaven forbid the students have a good example set for them in breastfeeding babies.

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Jeanette Ransing
01/30/2013 12:13pm

How dare you try to shame this young lady, William!! Your comment is damaging to women, mothers, and teens. Take your opinion back to the 1950's where it belongs!

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Aubrey
01/30/2013 4:06pm

If high school age kids don't know how to focus their attention despite distractions, they have worse problems than a classmate pumping milk!

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 10:50am

I did #Jaielyn on twitter. Lets trend it!!!!

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Sarah
01/30/2013 10:50am

I am totally all for fighting this, I breast fed all of my babies and my first one I got pregnant with at 18. While I had already graduated high school by the time I got pregnant, had I still been in HS, I still would've breast fed. While I do totally support you, maybe until you can get passed so that you can breast feed at the school you could do online schooling at home. Online schooling is becoming more and more popular and unlike homeschooling you won't have to come up with a curriculum on your own or try and figure anything out as far as making sure you don't miss anything. I do online schooling with all 3 of my kids, they're 5, 6 and 10 an they love it and all of the supplies are sent to you, even a laptop and if you have any questions or need help your teachers are always available online to help you whenever you need it. It's just a thought but you might love it because then you could stay home with your baby and spend time together too. That's why I love doing it with my kids. I wish you the best of luck and I'll be rooting for you!!! :-)

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01/30/2013 11:14am

While I support her fighting to nurse in school, I do second the idea of virtual schooling. My DD is in Ohio Virtual Academy through K12. I know when my kids were born I'd do just about anything to stay home with them for awhile. That wasn't possible with my DD but I'm a SAHM now with DS and DD does K12 so we get to spend all the time we want together.

Just saying if fighting for her rights doesn't work out (no reason why it shouldn't) K12 is a wonderful option.

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Darcey
01/30/2013 10:53am

I am somewhat confused, IS Jaielyn @ Lake Forest H.S. to get an education or to breast feed/pump her breast for her baby and everyone else? I ABSOLUTELY AGREE with Lake Forest H.S. I see where her mother states she is a good student and a book worm and I don't doubt that, but she wasn't always reading, Yes, I agree breast feeding is great and no one is saying it is not. Sounds like to me Lake Forest is just stating you cannot breast feed or pump during school hours. The above Delaware Laws sounds like it pertains to employed people @ their jobs or people who may be waiting @ a bus stop, not teenage girls in High School or any school. I PRAY that Lake Forest H.S. sticks to their guns and not allow this to happen. Home schooling for a while sounds like a great ideal.......

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 11:02am

Your attempt at logic makes no sense. You think no one else there engages in activities other than reading? Such thinly veiled judgement. Amazing! And decidedly not Christ-like.

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Darcey
01/30/2013 11:48am

That's your opinion and you are entitled to it like I am to mine. Have a great day!!!!! May GOD bless you and yours.......

Rachel
01/30/2013 11:11am

just a question have you ever nursed a baby? at this age a baby nurses ever 3-4 hours or more often if they are growing rapidly, I have gone 6 hours before without being able to pump... and by that time I had literally leaked through my breast pads my bra and my shirt, my breasts were sooo sore and engorged ... do you want this young girl who has a baby (so what if you think it was a mistake ) who has the right to eat as well . not pumping or feeding the baby can cause some serious health issues for a mother. if she does not breastfeed her baby with this free form of nutrition are you going to cough up the cash to pay for the formula (which is a poor substitute when she is fully willing and able to nourish her baby) Formula is expensive $25 and up for a can that might last a week ... and last even less as the baby gets older.

This young girl is to be commended for wanting to continue her education, and her wanting to breastfeed would in no way inpact her education or the education of others (might even be a good thing to educate people like yourself who seem to be ignorant that it is the natural way for babies to eat)

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Jessica
01/30/2013 11:17am

Oh my, Darcey. Your ignorance is showing. How embarrassing. Are you maybe from the 1920s? Perhaps you think she ought to disappear and live with her Aunt for a bit?

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E
01/30/2013 11:25am

Your ignorance is almost laughable. Do some research about breastfeeding laws, nursing, and parenting in general before you embaress yourself with comments like these

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Darcey
01/30/2013 11:44am

AGAIN.......it's not about her breast feeding. That's a good thing. It's about her DOING it in school. School is about getting an education not breast feeding. Everyone is commenting about her breast feeding. Lake Forest is not saying she cannot breast feed. Can you people even READ? They are saying she cannot breast feed in school. I feel this isn't a Lake Forest issue, it is a Jaielyn and her mother issue. Again home schooling is a great ideal...

tash
01/30/2013 11:47am

It wouldn't take much time out of her day, and should not disrupt her education or other students. She can take her lunch into a spare classroom or conference room in the office and pump for twenty minutes. She can do the same with her study hall/s and study while she pumps. Most schools have a much longer class period then it takes to pump. And why should it be any harder for a student to pump then a teacher?

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Jesse
01/30/2013 2:03pm

Clearly trolling.. :)

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Mae
01/30/2013 3:03pm

Wow. I am shocked that someone could actually support the school's decision. This decision could be hazardous to her son's health, while allowing her to provide the proper nourishment would only take a short bit of time. She could easily continue doing her school work during these breaks! Seriously, I'm flabbergasted.

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Amanda
01/30/2013 3:16pm

Oh Darcy, go grab an education and get your face out of the book of lies (aka the bible). You might end up sounding less ignorant.

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Aubrey
01/30/2013 4:03pm

Getting an education and maintaining breastfeeding are not mutually exclusive. While some women can keep up their supply with an 8 hour per day gap in their feeding schedule, most can not. That is why the high school is wrong in not allowing to pump; that would most likely lead to premature weaning. Of course this teenager has not been an entirely "good girl", considering she got pregnant. But how does preventing her from doing something that benefits her baby going to resolve her mistake--that's right, it won't. It sounds like you want this girl to be punished for something she can't possibly undo and make a challenging situation even worse. Shame on you! And if this girl by your logic should not pump at school, then neither should anyone else who needs accommodation receive it. That's ridiculous.

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Ash
01/30/2013 9:06pm

Yes. She is there to pump and breastfeed for you. She would like to come do it in your livingroom because you love it so much. Seriously? Was that a real question? Darcey, you can't maintain a breastmilk supply without pumping during the day. You obviously either don't know that or don't care about the INFANTS rights to have the absolute unarguably best thing for her. This is far more than being about a teen mother in DE. It is about infants EVERYWHERE that have rights that are not detirmined by mothers circumstance. God bless you as well. Jesus was breastfed whenever he needed, no doubt.

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01/30/2013 10:55am

I agree...some activism and advocacy needs to happen here.
I was a teen mom and am so thankful the school nurse was supportive and let me hang out in her bathroom to pump during my studyhall & lunch period. I doubt if I had been able to have my baby there with me there wouldn't have been a problem either.

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Lindsay
01/30/2013 10:59am

I think that LFHS is definitely drawing more attention by not allowing her. There's no reason why she can't just discreetly go into a private room once or twice a day and pump. I'm honestly surprised the nurse of all people is not supporting her on this.

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Kelly
01/30/2013 10:59am

I wrote the principal and nurse a letter- pointing out that not only is this discriminatory but they are very likely to cause the girl's failure by affecting her supply, as well as likely causing direct health problems like mastitis. Just sickened on behalf of the poor girl. Seriously, there's not one office with a closeable door she can use over lunch or something? sad.

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Casey
01/30/2013 11:04am

Thus is crazy! The school nurse needs to go back to school. It's rediculous that a school can't provide someone with a private room for twenty minutes twice a day. They are trying to be difficult and trying to prove to the young mother that "she shouldn't of had a baby so young". Get over yourselves and help this young mother achieve her goals of being a good mother and getting her diploma.

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Gina
01/30/2013 11:06am

I fully support breast feeding. This school is now put in a place to support the poor judgement if a teenager?! Her classmates are forced to have a disruptive classroom because of the poor judgement ( getting pregnant to begin with) of a classmate who has to leave early or arrive late to a class....interfering with the learning of others? Someone needs to be paid to monitor storage temp of the refrig the thinks is owed to her to store her breast milk.....and will the school cafeteria now be responsible for making sure she is provided a nutrient packed lunch, because proper diet and fluid intake are important to produce quality breast milk!
She isnt the only student in that school, and where are the rights of those other students and why should THEIR learning be interrupted by one classmate who maybe should have been more informed about effective birth control methods?

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 11:15am

This is as poor an argument as one stating that students with learning disabilities shouldn't be allowed in the classroom.
And it's the law.

The judgement of the few of you is just amazing. Like people don't get pregnant on birth control? Or no one else at that school is engaging in similar activities? She's making the best of the situation, making the best choice for her child. Get off your dang high horses.

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Rachel
01/30/2013 11:23am

do you think that those kids who smoke and are always late for class or those who are skipping class and those who just dont' care are not disrupting classes all day every day? it is easy to sit in the back or even the front, raise your hand , be excused to go pump and either come back or go to the next class. there is no need to monitor the temp of a fridge... if need be an icepack and a cooler bag would work just fine. and anyone who needs more nutrients can easily pack a lunch, I went to highschool and never once did I get a lunch from the cafeteria I packed my lunch every morning.
and even if you ate thinking that it is still disruptive to others maybe it is just the education that they need because feeding a baby and yourself is normal and apparently you never learned the lesson so maybe her class mates can be taught the lesson through htis young girl.

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Darcey
01/30/2013 12:33pm

THANK U, THANK U, THANK U, Gina. Finally, someone who is making sense. No one wants to acknowledge the fact that another teenager got pregnant, and it happens a lot, but now we are suppose to move heaven and earth to accommodate ALL of her needs. I don't think so. Like you said she is not the only student in school. Other people need to be considered also. I don't care what anyone says or thinks about me. Again Jaielyn and her mother need to figure this out and stop bringing everyone else into this matter. Prayer has always worked for me. TRY IT....

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Courtney
01/30/2013 4:06pm

If she doesn't pump, she will become engorged, she could get plugged ducts and possibly mastitis. Then she will have to go to the doctor/hospital and miss school, more than if she would be allowed to pump 2x a day at least. If she doesn't get an infection, which is what mastitis is, she will dry up very quickly. My daughter needed to breastfeed every 2 hours for the first 3 months of her life. She ate, all the time. If I went longer than 4 hours without nursing her or pumping, I was leaking through everything. This isn't about teen pregnancy. That part is over. Now there is a child involved. I'm sorry you are too stuck on the fact that she made a choice to have sex and it resulted in a pregnancy. I'm stuck on the fact that there is a little boy who needs nourishment and his mother decided to give him nourishment from her breasts. That's the issue. When I was in high school, many children who had issues that interfered with their day to day school schedule were given special treatment and they worked with the student and their family. Why all of the sudden is this such a terrible thing? She isn't looking to get out of school altogether. She is just looking for a little help. Every mother needs help, no matter their age. The fact that you feel she doesn't deserve help is disgusting. She isn't asking that much from the school and they seem to bend the rules for sports kids, for kids with religious differences and kids with behavior disorders not severe enough to be considered "special needs." Why is this young woman's request such a horrible thing. As a mother, it is so degrading to ask for help. I felt as though I was a terrible mother for asking for help when I needed it. And now, this mother who has asked for help is being put on public trial and narrow minded people like you are being judgmental. Prayer does work and I will be praying for this young woman. You do not know her life, what she's gone through and how she feels about having to watch her troubles play out in public. How about we all ban together as mothers and support one another. This is ridiculous. It's 2013 for crying out loud. Let's be more accepting and progressive in our thinking.

susan
01/30/2013 12:48pm

Your comments about her privius poor judgement are cruel inappropriate, for this issue.. You do not get to judge her..we are supposed to help young woman in an already difficult situation. not. NOT YOUR PLACE. please love and pray for her and her baby istead.

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Mae
01/30/2013 3:11pm

Gina, did you actually read your post before hitting submit??! In what possible way would her pumping disrupt the other students? All the young lady would need to do is bring a lunch box to store the milk. That's IT. Your argument is ridiculous and grounded in discrimination. Yes she made a mistake by becoming pregnant in the first place, but by standing up and doing what's right for herself and her child, in light of her poor decision, could be seen as a wonderful display of maturity and responsibility!

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sarah b
01/30/2013 11:07am

It is the law....we shouldnt even having to have this discussion...she should not be treated like a second class citizen contact beau biden and your senators

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andrea
01/30/2013 11:12am

Can she home-school until the baby's 1? That would mean she could finish her education and not have to leave the baby. And she can feed it all she likes!

the school is being very, very shortsighted about this - if they want her to go back to school and finish her education, they need to act like an employer and give her her rights to feed her baby.

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01/30/2013 8:14pm

I think it's fairly clear that they DON'T want her to go back to school and finish her education. They get labeled as "drop-outs" but really they're PUSHED out. It happens to girls who get pregnant and boys who cause trouble all the time -- it would be easier on the administration if they weren't at school, so they make it increasingly more difficult for the "problem" kids to be at school.

It happened to my mom when she got pregnant and married in high school with me 30 years ago and it's still happening today.

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Teresa
01/30/2013 11:13am

Kudos to to Betty too for helping support her daughter in making the best decisions for the new mom and baby.
The schools recommendation is obviously an uneducated decision and is putting too much emphasis on the new mom not feeling like a normal teen. She's already not a normal teen. She's an upstanding mom making the best decisions for her son. Her battle will hopefully help other young moms make the best decision for their children.

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Mrs. Ramos
01/30/2013 11:17am

Give me a break Gina, poor judgement, wake up and realize that these teens are having sex, she was just one of the unfortunate ones that got pregnant and she is trying to take responsibility for that which is admirable. I was a teen mom myself and guess what, I was not the only pregnant teen at my school just one of the few that didn't have an abortion. I say kudos to this young mom for trying to do the very beat for her little angel. He is very lucky to have a good mama. I had my first son at 17 and luckily I was out of high school when he was born and I also breastfed full time and in every way tried to do the very best I could for him. I applaud this young lady.

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Jim D
01/30/2013 11:18am

Good for you. Breastmilk is the best for your baby and has countless number of benefits. Dont give in and keep fighting. Its all about him.

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lea
01/30/2013 11:18am

You obviously never breastfed. In order to keep note supplies she has to pump while breastfeeding route the day or else her milk supply will disappear and she won't have anything to feed him when she is with him and nothing to leave with him while she's away. Not to mention the pain of engorgement and leaking during the day while she they quote stick to their guns. There are breaks between classes and lunch that would allow her to pump without missing class time.

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 11:21am

https://www.facebook.com/WeSupportJaielynBelongsRightToFeedHerBaby

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Bridget
01/30/2013 11:24am

Okay, i never breastfed my children, But i do know if you have that choice to sit there and breastfeed your child you should have that right no matter were you go!! I SAY SUE THERE BUTTS OFF FOR THIS!! ESPECIALLY IF ITS AGAINST THE LAW WERE YOUR FROM!
Im all for breastfeeding, please dont bashi prefer them to covered if older children are around, only because i dont think the older kids should see that.. just my opinion! But your doing the right thing by fighting all this! Good luck to you and god bless...

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01/30/2013 11:27am

Jaielyn, I commend you for taking responsibility for your child, for wanting to finish your education and for giving him the gift of breastfeeding. It is a gift that lasts a lifetime.
You are blazing a trail! Do not give up!! Across this nation there are countless mothers, young and veteran who are standing behind you and cheering you on.

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Terry
01/30/2013 11:27am

Obviously those of you that are on the school's side have never breastfed. It's not only about the best nutrition for the baby...but it's about Jaielyn's health. Obviously none of you school supporters have been engorged or had mastitis. Jaielyn could get really sick by not pumping. She is not asking to nurse on campus...she is asking for 10 mins maybe twice a day to pump milk. that is the equivalent to telling a diabetic that they could not give themselves insulin at school as far as i am concerned. Yes, did she make some mistakes in her life - sure. i can almost gaurantee she didn't plan on being a teen mom - but every one of you people have made mistakes in your life - and if you deny that - you are lying. But she is trying her damnest now to do the best for her little baby! Even if they deny her this right to pump - I suggest that she learn how to manually express her milk and ask for a bathroom pass when she needs to pump. There is no way that i would let this stop me from breastfeeding. There is a serious issue in this country where we think artificial, man-made junk is "better" for us than natural things. ridiculous. And the comments about homeschooling or online schooling.....great alternative...if thats what works for jaelyn and her family. I do online school with my son - he loves it....but its not for everyone. The school shouldnt be forcing her into choosing a method of schooling that may not be right for her...the whole goal here is to make sure she graduates, despite her previous misjudgements.

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lea
01/30/2013 11:28am

Where are the teachers? There's got to be at least one teacher willing to allow her into their room throughout the day to take care of things. Sounds like the school was grasping at straws suggesting that she may be bullied? How about you use this as an educational experience to show the rest of the students how things should be. Yes homeschooling is an option but it should be her option not something she's forced into.

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IN
01/30/2013 11:31am

WOW! This very young teen mom has taken responsibility for her pregnancy, and not only that, but she is doing it right. I have nothing against mothers who give formula, I have many friends that haven't been able to breastfeed for one reason or another, but if she can breastfeed, and she wants to, it is undeniably the best thing for her child, and for her. Emotionally and physically they will both be better off for her having chosen to breastfeed. And as for their claim that breast pumps are too noisy, have they never heard of a manual pump? I have a nice electric double pump, but I am able to get more milk and be more comfortable with a hand held manual pump. So they can't use that as an excuse. I hope that this school comes to it's senses soon though so that this girl and her baby don't spend the next few years dealing with it. I am however thinking that with this immediate and straightforward (not to mention public) attention that they are receiving, that Ms. Belong will be allowed to nurse. Way to go momma. Stand up for yourself, your baby, and your education.

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01/30/2013 11:33am

What is missing here is the fact that by denying this mother a safe, comfortable place to express her milk, the school district is IMMEDIATELY placing this baby at risk by denying it access to it's mother's milk. Not only should we be advocating for the mother's legal right to feed her child, we need to demand the rights for the tiniest one in the scenario whose health is being compromised.
I have written the ACLU in DE, and cc'd the school officials.
Thank you all for joining together to protect this baby!

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01/30/2013 11:38am

Breast feeding is the best for the child and its a shame that ppl discriminate against her for wanting to give her child breast milk. She be allowed to pump at school and save milk at school to bring to her child. I breasted my first child (now 3) for 16 months and was very dedicated to it. My daughter (second child) is still nursing at 13 months. I would be pissed if some denied me from breast feeding.

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Novanglus
01/30/2013 11:41am

The principal just posted this on his blog:

Breast Feeding at School
Due to privacy regulations we cannot comment on the specifics of a 15 year old student that has received a lot of media attention. But, should a student ask to pump breast milk at school, this is what our response would be.

Lake Forest High School has many female staff members who have personal experience with breast feeding their own children and managing that goal after returning to work. They are wonderful resources for teen moms wishing to do the same. We encourage any teen mom to seek their advice.

We have no specially designed room for that purpose but we would do our best to accommodate that student’s request. The student would be responsible for providing her own cooler for storage. Any refrigerators in school are in use for other purposes. To use them to also store a student’s pumped breast milk would risk contamination.

Our teen moms have access to the DAPI program in Camden which is specifically designed to support pregnant teens. There they can take their classes, take their baby them, breast feed and pump whenever necessary. A student who chooses to leave that environment and return to regular school also chooses to leave behind a certain level of support.

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 11:56am

Do you have a link to this

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Sarah Chalberg
01/30/2013 11:57am

Do you have the link to his blog?

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Rebecca
01/30/2013 12:53pm

http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/

BethanyH
01/30/2013 12:56pm

http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/2013/01/breast-feeding-at-school.html here is the blog post.

joanna
01/30/2013 1:04pm

http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/

Jesse
01/30/2013 2:21pm

Ladies...this was also posted on their web page. Here is the link http://www.lf.k12.de.us/lfhs/ I personally think that not supporting this young lady and her decision to take responsibility is an injustice. If I was her mom, or a member of her current support system...I would have the baby available for his regular feedings.

Not only that the statement is clearly aimed at placating the public, and stalling. This statement alone "A student who chooses to leave that environment and return to regular school also chooses to leave behind a certain level of support." is like saying that because women chose to leave their house and work they are no longer protected, or afforded decent work environments.

Ona
01/30/2013 11:44am

I also called the school and left a polite but firm message on their main voicemail. I hope the family stands their ground and ensures that pumping or nursing happens every 2-3 hours so she doesn't lose her supply. Good for her for nursing and doing what is best for her baby. Teen moms face so much discrimination and this particular story has me so steamed!

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carrie
01/30/2013 11:46am

schools are the worst about letting moms pump. even as a staff member i had to beg to pump and then i was giving a durty rat filled closest to pump in. to get to the closest i had to run though a class full of students. and then i also had to deal with the other staff wanting to know where i was and not giving me the time to pump

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01/30/2013 11:48am

This is absolutely disgusting & the school & the school nurse should be ashamed! Good luck, Jaielyn!

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Gloria
01/30/2013 11:52am

Instead of suing and screaming" My rights! My rights!"....why cant she just pump milk in the nurses office or some reasonsble accomodations? Schools are NOT responsible for her baby..but they could help her..if possible.

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E
01/30/2013 12:00pm

They are refusing to, that is the problem. Read the story

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Sarah Chalberg
01/30/2013 11:55am

Emailed dean, principals and nurse (dmblades@lf.k12.de.us, chmorris@lf.k12.de.us, jfilicicchia@lf.k12.de.us, twmorris@lf.k12.de.us, and jdberry@lf.k12.de.us):

To whom it should concern,

It has been brought to my attention that Jaielyn Belong has allegedly been refused facilities by the school nurse to pump breastmilk and store it for her infant while she is on school campus during school hours.

This needs to be remedied before this young lady returns to school. The school nurse seems to have provided medical advise (for Jaielyn to nurse her child only while she's not at school) that could dangerously effect the nursing relationship between mother and child and ultimately result in negative medical complications for mother and child. Moreover, the nurses alleged refusal to provide pumping facilities borders on illegal (see copies of Federal and State laws below).

I gather that the school nurse is probably unaware of the law and wasn't knowingly disregarding Delaware and Federal laws and the nurse is obviously not educated on the function of breastfeeding.

I would like to know how you intend to right this error.

I suggest that facilities be provided for Jaielyn and any other nursing mothers (student or teacher) immediately and the nurse take a class on breastfeeding so she doesn't continue to provide ignorant and possible dangerous medical advice to other students.

CHAPTER 10

FORMERLY

HOUSE BILL NO. 31

AS AMENDED BY HOUSE AMENDMENT NO. 1

AN ACT TO AMEND TITLE 31 OF THE DELAWARE CODE RELATING TO INFANT NUTRITION, AND PROVIDING FOR AN INFANT NUTRITION ACT.

WHEREAS, the Surgeon General of the United States recommends that babies from birth to one year of age should be breast-fed, unless medically contraindicated, in order to achieve a healthy start on life; and

WHEREAS, breast milk strengthens the immune system of babies, improves digestion and is of better nutritional value than regular milk; and

WHEREAS, despite the Surgeon General's recommendation, statistics reveal a declining number of women are choosing to breast-feed their children, and nearly half of all new mothers are now choosing formula over breast milk even before they leave the hospital; and

WHEREAS, the social constraints of modem society impede a woman's choice to breast-feed due to embarrassment and the lack of public acceptance; and

WHEREAS, in the best interest of the state to recognize breast-feeding in places of public accommodation as an important right which must be encouraged in order to promote child health.

NOW THEREFORE:

BE IT ENACTED BY THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY OF THE STATE OF DELAWARE:

SECTION 1. Amend Chapter 3, Title 31 of the Delaware Code by adding thereto a new section, designated as § 312, which new section shall read as follows:

"§ 312 Breast-feeding, Notwithstanding any provisions of law to the contrary, a mother shall be entitled to breast-feed her child in any location of a place of public accommodation, wherein the mother is otherwise permitted."

Approved April 7, 1997

Source: http://delcode.delaware.gov/sessionlaws/ga139/chp010.shtml

Section 7(r) of the Fair Labor Standards Act – Break Time for Nursing Mothers Provision
Effective March 23, 2010, the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act amended the FLSA to require employers to provide a nursing mother reasonable break time to express breast milk after the birth of her child. The amendment also requires that employers provide a place for an employee to express breast milk.
Section 7 of the Fair Labor Standards Act of 1938 (29 U.S.C. 207) is amended by adding at the end the following:

(r)(1)
An employer shall provide--
a reasonable break time for an employee to express breast milk for her nursing child for 1 year after the child’s birth each time such employee has need to express the milk; and
a place, other than a bathroom, that is shielded from view and free from intrusion from coworkers and the public, which may be used by an employee to express breast milk.

(2)
An employer shall not be required to compensate an employee receiving reasonable break time under paragraph (1) for any work time spent for such purpose.

(3)
An employer that employs less than 50 employees shall not be subject to the requirements of this subsection, if such requirements would impose an undue hardship by causing the employer significant difficulty or expense when considered in relation to the size, financial resources, nature, or structure of the employer’s business.

(4)
Nothing in this subsection shall preempt a State law that provides greater protections to employees than the protections provided for under this subsection.
Source: http://www.dol.gov/whd/nursingmothers/Sec7rFLSA_btnm.htm.

Thank you,

Sarah Chalberg
A concerned citizen.

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Tammie
01/30/2013 11:56am

This is crazy! This young lady had a baby yet chose to stay in school! Give her a place to pump and support her!

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kayla
01/30/2013 11:58am

SUE THE SCHOOL!!! THAT IS A VIOLATION OF YOUR RIGHTS!!!!! make it right for you, your baby and other teen moms fighting the same battle!!!!!!!

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Dan Curry, Superintendent, Lake Forest Schools
01/30/2013 11:58am


Due to privacy regulations we cannot comment on the specifics of a 15 year old student that has received a lot of media attention. But, should a student ask to pump breast milk at school, this is what our response would be.

Lake Forest High School has many female staff members who have personal experience with breast feeding their own children and managing that goal after returning to work. They are wonderful resources for teen moms wishing to do the same. We encourage any teen mom to seek their advice.

We have no specially designed room for that purpose but we would do our best to accommodate that student’s request. The student would be responsible for providing her own cooler for storage. Any refrigerators in school are in use for other purposes. To use them to also store a student’s pumped breast milk would risk contamination.

Our teen moms have access to the DAPI program in Camden which is specifically designed to support pregnant teens. There they can take their classes, take their baby with them, breast feed and pump whenever necessary. A student who chooses to leave that environment and return to regular school also chooses to leave behind a certain level of support.

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Dana
01/30/2013 12:16pm

Being a new mother is not easy at any age. This young girl is trying to do the best she can for her baby, and she needs your support. She should be commended for wanting to finish school AND be a responsible parent. You should be ashamed that you would treat a student this way.

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01/30/2013 12:36pm

As a mother who has breastfed and pumped AND as a teacher, your district's attitude towards this mother is upsetting. Teen PARENTS (because there IS a father involved when a woman gets pregnant!) need love and support. Many times "special" schools for the mothers do not meet the educational needs and goals of some of the students. My friends who had children as teenager often felt that the classes were remedial and did not prepare them for college. They wished to rejoin their peers at school to prepare for higher education. They should be supported in this!
It is not unreasonable to ask a pumping mother of any age to provide her own storage containers and breat pump. However, it is ignorant to say that she may not use a fridge at school to store her milk due to "contaimination." Properly stored breastmilk will not contaminate anything! If it did, NICUs would not store frozen breastmilk from different mothers in the same freezer!
As professionals, your job is to educate and support the students through a variety of challenges in life. You are doing a poor job of supporting this mother.
Laura/WaldenMommy
PS- Please send this nurse to a cont. ed. course on breastfeeding. She is clearly lacking basic knowledge of the importance of breastmilk, pumping and milk storage.

Christine Applegate
01/30/2013 4:40pm

This young lady should not be forced to go to DAPI in order to have support for breast feeding her child!!! If she chooses to go to Lake Forest High School, she should be given the same accommodations as any other breast feeding mother, and should not be forced to go to a bacteria filled bathroom to take care of her needs.

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01/30/2013 8:58pm

Dear Mr. Curry,
First of all, I would like to thank you for adding this comment to the article. I had called both the high school and the district offices several times. I either could not get through, was hung up on or told "We have no comment," so I sincerely appreciate this outreach.

Secondly, I'm not sure what interactions you have had with the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition or our local La Leche League group as of yet. Would you be interested in free breastfeeding education classes or programs for staff and/or students? Education surrounding breastfeeding seems to be lacking by numerous staff members and you said in your interview with Mr. Mark Fowser that although you have no shortage in teen moms at Lake Forest, you're not sure if any of your staff members have ever received a request for accommodations for breastfeeding from the teen moms at your school. It would be great if we give this a positive, educational spin and really make an impact.

In regards to DAPI: Yes, it seems like a fabulous school. It is my understanding, through the grandmother, that the teen mom in question attended DAPI during her pregnancy, at least for their prenatal courses. She found it to be less than challenging as far as her academics are concerned and wished to return to Lake Forest. That should be commended, not shamed by continually bringing it up when this issue arises. She knows her options, and so far, she's chosen the most challenging course of action. It is our duty as a community to raise our children IN the community. Sometimes, this means helping them through a rough time. She made the choice to have her baby instead of abort. She made the choice to breastfeed instead of giving formula. In making that choice, she understands she will not be given the amount of support that is available at DAPI as DAPI has a completely different program set up. However, as her community, we all should help and guide her to succeed to her top potential.

I would be very interested in speaking with you in regards to breastfeeding education, or possibly even starting a teen mom program through your wellness center. I'm sure the local La Leche League leader and the Delaware Breastfeeding Coalition would also love to discuss this with you if you would like to speak with them.

Looking forward to hearing from you again,
Jennifer Antonik
mommatrauma@gmail.com

If you would like to speak over the phone, please email me and I will send you my phone number.

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Brittney
01/30/2013 12:01pm

I just called the districts super. He was very nice and said this mom is allowed to pump at school. That they made a reccommendation as read above but they are abiding by it. And that she is allowed to pump in school.

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01/30/2013 12:25pm

It would be nice if they responded on the blog, especially in light of what the principle just posted.

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joanna
01/30/2013 1:07pm

They posted a comment on their own blog stating that any BFing student will be allowed to pump if they so desire...
http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/

Missy
01/30/2013 12:04pm

I went to LF Highschool years ago. I can say the School nurse is not in support of teen pregnancy and she is biased. She is also very unfriendly and in my opinion shouldnt be a NURSE. This is just wrong. But I think her personal opinion is affecting her duty as a nurse. We are supposed to advocate for our patients and put our own views and prejedices aside.

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01/30/2013 12:05pm

I posted a comment on the blog. It probably won't be published, so here's what i said:

#1 you have a typo in your post.

#2 " A student who chooses to leave that environment and return to regular school also chooses to leave behind a certain level of support."

Are you serious with this comment? So you're saying that a student athlete with a torn ACL would be leaving support behind by coming back to school on crutches, or a wheel chair? That she wouldn't be able to take a break to ice, that he or she wouldn't be feted and coddled and cared for by staff and students alike?

This situation could have had a very simple solution, instead, your administration decided to make things difficult. If I had to guess, because they want to shame the child.

Shame on you. The most flexible place on earth should be a place caring for the minds of children. Now you've got a furor on your hands, when all you had to do was to be a little creative and professional. Two things ALL educators should be

Jennifer Schmitt

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 12:21pm

Shoot they didn't have to even be creative. It's hardly different than teachers needing to pump. Should have been an non-issue, they made it one to shame the young mom. Glad they are changing their tune but afraid she's going to continue to receive the same horrible teen mom judgement regardless while she attends that place.

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01/30/2013 12:31pm

Unfortunately, horrible teen mom judgement will probably always be a side effect of teen pregnancy. The problem is that these people have let it make them forget what their jobs are. The nurse thinks her job is to keep the refrigerator clear for medication, and the principal thinks his job is to keep his graduation rates high. Perhaps they have been holding those jobs for too long.

01/30/2013 12:08pm

Oh this makes me mad. Here is a young girl trying to do what is best for her baby, and no one is helping.

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Sarah Chalberg
01/30/2013 12:13pm

I can't find this blog. can someone post the link?

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01/30/2013 12:23pm

http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/2013/01/breast-feeding-at-school.html

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Kj
01/30/2013 12:21pm

What's best isn't always what is easiest! WAY TO GO!!!! Don't let anyone tell you that you can't breastfeed. It's YOUR RIGHT and your child's right!!

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Kathy
01/30/2013 12:27pm

It looks as though this school district DOES have accomodations for young moms! I 200% commend her for wanting to breastfeed her baby! I also know how important it is to have support from, and make "connections" with others in similar situations. It sounds as though the other school that has accomodations for moms and babies would be a healthy alternative.....there, she can have her baby at school WITH her, interact with him, nurse him, and learn to be the best mommy she can be.....all the while, being supported to continue her education, and to provide for her child long after his breast feeding days are over! There are two sides to every story, and jumping on bandwagons without knowing both sides does nothing but create unnecessary frenzy for all involved

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01/30/2013 12:35pm

I don't agree that this is an "unnecessary frenzy." She shouldn't have have to go to the alternative school if she doesn't feel it's the best course for her. Everyone knows it's not the same. She wants to pump, not set fire to the school.

She is being shamed here, for her decision to have her baby, IMO, and that needs to be dealt with.

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susan
01/30/2013 12:51pm

Not to mention that alternative schools are for troubled teens. i can only imagine the kind of ridicule and bad element she would subjected too..

susan
01/30/2013 12:52pm

Not to mention that alternative schools are for troubled teens. i can only imagine the kind of ridicule and bad element she would subjected too

Amanda
01/30/2013 12:37pm

Nobody is jumping on bandwagons. An alternative school is indeed a great option for some teens. But maybe it isn't for her personally. Teachers who work at that school and choose to breastfeed aren't asked to go teach at an alternative school until they are finished doing so...because that old be illegal. If all she is requesting is a place and time to pump, that can be easily accommodated without the need to change schools and uproot her. Just as it is for the female staff there. This administration simply wanted her to take her "teen mom" issues somewhere else....unacceptable.

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Lauren Kahre
01/30/2013 12:39pm

Here is a lovely young woman who took responsibility for her actions, though teen pregnancy is never ideal, she is handling her responsibilities with maturity and grace. I went to high school in Texas and my school district was worse, and would bully pregnant teens into dropping out or going to an alternative school. When did breastfeeding acquire such a negative stigma? It's a natural and beautiful function! I don't have children yet, but I plan on breastfeeding when I do decide to become a mother. She has chosen to parent her child and is trying to do the best job she can, kudos! As a law student, this is clearly a discrimination case. I recommend taking immediate action and I guarantee the school will backdown, they won't want the negative press. Keep up the good fight, and don't drop out or homeschool!

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01/30/2013 12:43pm

I just emailed and published an open letter to the school. If you would like to share the letter so that more people become aware and put pressure on them, please feel free to do so!

https://www.facebook.com/notes/amanda-norell/an-open-letter-to-lake-forest-high-school-regarding-breastfeeding-in-school/559660344047271

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01/30/2013 12:46pm

I spoke to the superintendent just a little bit ago.
My experience with advocacy has been largely with my school district in Austin (I write the blog at KeepAustinNIP.com), as well as a neighboring district. I left a voice mail offering to be a resource and was promptly called back.
Please don't shoot the messenger. I will try to diplomatically - because diplomacy is, I think, always best - explain my perception of his perspective.
He says that there is some misinformation online. He said that the nurse told Jaielyn's mom that they would find a room for her to pump in. She will need to bring a cooler with ice packs and they will let her store it where she feels is best.
(Regardless of what exactly the conversation was, the district *is* saying they will accommodate the mother's pumping.)
Dr. Curry was, understandably (if you're trying to see this from his perspective - put yourself in his shoes for just a moment), frustrated at the sudden, intense attention this has drawn, especially given that he believes the public has been misinformed.
In speaking to employees, he is under the impression that adults - able to make decisions for themselves, familiar with the school buildings, and undeterred by embarrassment in a female-dominated profession - are able to look at their options for pumping at school and decide for themselves whether or not to do that.
We advocates see flaws in this logic, I know.
However, I truly believe that a barrage of contacts will not at this time necessarily change the superintendent's perception. Especially contacts that are shaming or irate. I was, I feel, composed and diplomatic, yet I think he still felt I was lecturing him.
I wonder if it might best serve this school to tread more lightly. I plan to contact the breastfeeding coalition for the area and ask what *their* perspective is, and if they have been invited or can offer to tour the school and help determine a little-used area that could be converted into a lactation room. I feel that the employees in this district (& so many other districts!) - whether they are saying it or not - need more support, as well. If a lactation room exists, a mother does not have to make a decision about pumping at work that must take into account whether or not she can find a place where she is comfortable pumping. It's just there, and is not a factor in her decision. Women are far more likely to meet their own breastfeeding goals if they do not have to track down a comfortable place to express milk.
I have asked people to write to my district's administration and board, & hoped that they would send letters in droves. Here, given the different account given by administration and their stated intention to make accommodations for Jaielyn, I think it might be best if a smaller group determines who in the district is receptive to establishing lactation rooms throughout the district, and to work with those people to effect change.
I think there is still a role for us across the country to play. We cannot allow this issue to scroll down our News Feed and be forgotten. If we take a step back and see what develops, but remain vigilant, I think we can allow the district to make changes without the distraction and frustration of public pressure. In my area, a neighboring district has adopted a written policy that states no mother will be denied access to any part of a school in which she would otherwise be permitted. This was done with no direct public pressure, just a few diplomatic calls and emails from a friend and from me. Of course, this requires that someone - preferably with a connection to the school or area - spearhead education efforts there. Hopefully the bf coalition or local LLL is even already doing that. I will post anything I learn in trying to contact them.
As always, the show of support for breastfeeding mothers is amazing! You all rock!

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01/30/2013 3:09pm

I absolutely love your perspective.

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MamaKuma
01/30/2013 7:20pm

Here, here! Well said!

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Noelle
01/30/2013 12:56pm

Here's the blog: http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/ What a shameful response. . Interestingly, my son is a teenager as are all his friends and all of them know/have been there while I breastfed his younger siblings and they DON'T CARE. Honestly, they all just say "whatever, my (so and so family member) does and it's no big deal" These administrators need to give these kids some credit for being normal human beings.

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willowdoula
01/30/2013 1:01pm

Good for you!! Fight for whats best for you and babe!! Stay in school be allowed to nurse on demand. I myself a teen mom went to a teen mom school that called during class to allow for nursing. My duaghters friend gave birth last year they REFUSED to allow her at school after having her baby ... now a university student her grades are A+...Never let any one tell you whats best for your baby based on ignorance or FEAR....Breast is best!!!Jaielyn keep up the fight :)

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Cynthia Maloney
01/30/2013 1:06pm

Cynthia Maloney
As for the school nurse this quote tells me she believes the mother will fail:

Even so, “The school nurse called me on Thursday and told me they will not be able to accommodate my daughters need to pump or store milk during school hours,” said Betty. “They said the electric pump is noisy and will draw attention to my daughter. Pumping milk is time consuming. They're not even sure she'll be pumping milk when she says so.”

Although that being said, it's the people like her that made me set the bar even higher for myself. Smarmy attitudes just gave me more incentive to do my best and prove them wrong.

All these years later, and hundreds of mamas and babies whose lives I've been privileged to touch, I realize the older moms are much more likely to ask for help, while young ones don't, just because of attitudes like hers. When someone makes disparaging comments to teen mothers, a lot of the teen mothers either commit to it all without asking for help or just give up.
We need to support our young mothers exactly the same way we support our older moms. Parenting is hard enough without people like her making it harder.

eing a young mother doesn't make you a bad mother. You can be a good mother at any age.

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Renea G
01/30/2013 1:08pm

Not sure how much it will help, but I've shared this story with AAUW (both national and in DE), whose mission is advancing equity for women and girls. Having been a state officer for several years, I've seen the impact of support from AAUW, especially their Legal Advocacy Fund (anyone ever heard of the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act?? That is in part thanks to AAUW).

I've also posted a Facebook message on the page for the National Women's Law Center, linking to this article.

I certainly hope someone or some organization takes up this case of blatant discrimination, and gets Miss Belong the justice she deserves!

And kudos to Miss Belong and her mother for continuing to stand up for what is best for that sweet little boy. Stand strong ladies and know that you aren't alone in this fight--we've got your back from here on out!

Renea G.
Boston, MA

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01/30/2013 1:16pm

Ok, I am going to start encouraging my readers to write letters and make phone calls as well. The more I think about this, the more angry I get. She is a teenager, but she is also a mother now. This discrimination is unacceptable and I cannot allow them to punish her for making healthy decisions for herself and her child, not without reproach.

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01/30/2013 1:16pm

Ok, I am going to start encouraging my readers to write letters and make phone calls as well. The more I think about this, the more angry I get. She is a teenager, but she is also a mother now. This discrimination is unacceptable and they should not be allowed them to punish her for making healthy decisions for herself and her child, not without reproach.

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01/30/2013 1:19pm

Jaielyn I am so proud of you for investing in your son and setting such an amazing example for all mothers! The mental and physical health benefits for your son will last a lifetime. You keep on advocating for him for that is what parenting is all about! Good luck finishing your education!

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01/30/2013 1:20pm

why is it that nobody says what needs to be said... why is a 15 yr old GIRL with child? she and her mother must be aware of all the birth control available these days and a 15 yr old GIRL should NOT be having sex. period!! but since she already did she must go to the school that is equipped for girls that have this problem and maybe(unlike her mother)she will teach her son that sex before marriage is wrong.

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 1:27pm

AAAANNNDDDDD, you've stumbled across the wrong group of parents for that argument. Don't assume you will be getting much, if any, validation

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01/30/2013 2:32pm

maybe if this "group of parents" were more worried educating children of the negative effects of childhood sex, than sueing the world and protesting everyone, we would not have a 15 yr old GIRL with a baby. yes it's 2013, so why, by now, we havent figured out a way to keep our CHILDREN from having children.

Christine
01/30/2013 1:31pm

I am all for breastfeeding your baby but my first thought was she isn't much of a book worm if she is with child and second why should the other kids that believe in abstence be subject to her consequence of an unprotected night of sex. Apparently the one book she needed to read was about how you can get pregnant

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Jessica
01/30/2013 1:49pm

Are you serious? The baby is already BORN. Deal with it. All the coulda-shoulda-wouldas in the world aren't going to make the baby go away (are you seriously suggesting that this baby, who is born and who is now a person, shouldn't exist?!). Wow. Just. Wow. This is 2013 right? It is, isn't it? It's not 1980? Or 1920, even?

I don't see what any of your righteous "ought to"s have to do with the present situation. But thanks for coming out.

irene
01/30/2013 1:32pm

Ok, Dr. Z, that is really not the point right now, yes she is young, yes there is birth control, no she really shouldn't be having sex, but like you said, it is done, let's not get started on that here. We are looking for support for this young mother who wishes to do what is best for her child, but also continue her education, (which in the long run benefits her son also). As far as "schools equipped for girls that have this problem", what the heck are you really talking about??? What problem does she have? She doesn't have a problem, her HS is creating a problem!!!

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01/30/2013 1:53pm

no... the problem has been created by the girl. she should go to DAPI school where she can bring her baby with her if breast feeding is so important to her. i think she just wants a reason to sue and oh be famous... she should be embarassed and so should her mother.

Dayna, CLC WIC Senior Breastfeeding Peer Counselor
01/30/2013 1:58pm

Wow, it's a little late for prevention and it's offensive that you refer to a child as a "problem". This mom needs support, this is not an issue of prevention, unless you have created the very first time machine. So she should be shunned for making a mistake? Cast out like trash? I think not. Work on your compassion a little, it will have a greater affect and effect than the judgmental attitude you have now.

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01/30/2013 2:44pm

the DAPI school is for children that make mistakes... and she does not have to breast feed, formula is just as good. so if she wants to go to LF she can have the person raising her baby give him formula.

Cring
01/30/2013 2:56pm

DrZ formula is NOT just as good as breastmilk...I don't know what you are thinking on that comment.

bridget
01/30/2013 3:07pm

to DRZ welll theres a self esteem booster, and a great way to teach young moms, that when the going gets tough, run and hide your "shame". I formula fed my kids, even though i agree one hundred percent that breastmilk is a million times better then formula, i didnt breadtfeed for my own personal reasons! But she shouldnt have to run and hide because she had a baby, if anything shes doing the right thing by putting her foot down for her rights, did you ever think that this could be a possitive thing, that if teens get pregnant to young, that you should never give up on the baby nor your school work! Most teens who get pregnant get abortions, because there scared of idiotic morons judging them there whole lifes like your judging this poor young women!! do also all a favor and keep your non sense crap to yourself! BTW alot of parents who had pregnant teens, did teach them about safe sex, no sex, dieases and so on and so fourth! Just because theyre child got pregnant young doesnt mean the parents didnt teach them!! god people like you make me sick! Stop judging and leT god make the judgements!!! CONGRATS TO YOU NEW MOMMY AND BABY!! I PRAY THE REST OF YOUR LIFE BE TRULLY BLESSED AND DONT LET IGNORANT PEOPLE STOP YOU FROM REACHING YOUR GOALS!!! :)

01/30/2013 5:24pm

What really strikes me about all of this is how intent you are to shame and shun the girl. It takes two people to make a baby. Why aren't you advocating that the father of the child also be forced to attend the alternative school? Why is all you ire and focus placed on the girl and not the boy?

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01/30/2013 1:22pm

Sending strength and support to Jaielyn!

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Natalie
01/30/2013 1:26pm

This is via Krisdee at Keep Austin Nursing in Public: "I spoke to the superintendent just a little bit ago.
You all know my experience with advocacy has been largely with my school district, as well as a neighboring district. I left a voice mail offering to be a resource and was promptly called back.
Please don't shoot the messenger. I will try to diplomatically - because diplomacy is, I think, always best - explain my perception of his perspective.
He says that there is some misinformation online. He said that the nurse told Jaielyn's mom that they would find a room for her to pump in. She will need to bring a cooler with ice packs and they will let her store it where she feels is best.
(Regardless of what exactly the conversation was, the district *is* saying they will accommodate the mother's pumping.)
Dr. Curry was, understandably (if you're trying to see this from his perspective - put yourself in his shoes for just a moment), frustrated at the sudden, intense attention this has drawn, especially given that he believes the public has been misinformed.
In speaking to employees, he is under the impression that adults - able to make decisions for themselves, familiar with the school buildings, and undeterred by embarrassment in a female-dominated profession - are able to look at their options for pumping at school and decide for themselves whether or not to do that.
We advocates see flaws in this logic, I know.
However, I truly believe that a barrage of contacts will not at this time necessarily change the superintendent's perception. Especially contacts that are shaming or irate. I was, I feel, composed and diplomatic, yet I think he still felt I was lecturing him.
I wonder if it might best serve this school to tread more lightly. I plan to contact the breastfeeding coalition for the area and ask what *their* perspective is, and if they have been invited or can offer to tour the school and help determine a little-used area that could be converted into a lactation room. I feel that the employees in this district (& so many other districts!) - whether they are saying it or not - need more support, as well. If a lactation room exists, a mother does not have to make a decision about pumping at work that must take into account whether or not she can find a place where she is comfortable pumping. It's just there, and is not a factor in her decision. Women are far more likely to meet their own breastfeeding goals if they do not have to track down a comfortable place to express milk.
You know I have asked people to write to my district's administration and board, & hoped that they would send letters in droves. Here, with the different account given by administration and their stated intention to make accommodations for Jaielyn, I think it might be best if a smaller group determines who in the district is receptive to establishing lactation rooms throughout the district, and to work with those people to effect change.
I think there is still a role for us across the country to play. We cannot allow this issue to scroll down our News Feed and be forgotten. If we take a step back and see what develops, but remain vigilant, I think we can allow the district to make changes without the distraction and frustration of public pressure.
I planned to announce today (see my post here in a bit) that a neighboring district has adopted a written policy that states no mother will be denied access to any part of a school in which she would otherwise be permitted. This was done with no direct public pressure, just a few diplomatic calls and emails from @Rachel Donegan Ham and from me. Of course, this requires that someone - preferably with a connection to the school or area - spearhead education efforts there. Hopefully the bf coalition or local LLL is even already doing that. I will post anything I learn in trying to contact them.
This is just my perspective, based on five months of dealing with school districts."

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Shayne
01/30/2013 1:26pm

let me know if you need a fridge!
http://community.spiceworks.com/topic/297262-weird-news-story-teen-mom-won-t-be-allowed-to-be-mature?page=1#entry-1940495

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Dayna, CLC WIC Senior Breastfeeding Peer Counselor
01/30/2013 1:53pm

This is an issue I see a lot with the moms I work with. I don't know why it wasn't addressed initially but it needs to be amended! These moms want the very best for their little ones and they are punished for it. We are sending mothers mixed messages and creating unobtainable standards for motherhood on them. You can't tell a mom all the wonders of breastfeeding, that she should do it and in the same breath turn around and tell her she can't because of xyz. Mothers are set up for failure under the guise of support. Too little is done to actually support mothers who want to breastfeed, which is now about 85% of all mothers out there. Just a rotten shame!

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Gale
01/30/2013 1:54pm

Stand up for what u feel is right just show up to school with it pump I will be calling the school good luck u can make it work good for u staying in school don't let this hold u back

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Jamie RN
01/30/2013 1:55pm

Jaielyn is a GREAT mother & she's only been one for over a month!! Way to go by standing up for your right to breastfeed your child & not taking no for an answer. If you start out your mothering years this way, imagine what kind of legacy you will leave after you have years of experience. I am VERY proud of you and think your son is blessed to have a mother willing to give him the best. Thank you for setting a good example!

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Kelly
01/30/2013 1:56pm

I called the state board of Ed. The woman I spoke to said they have offered this student space to pump at school and they are accommodating her. I hope that was accurate information.

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Weaselspleen
01/30/2013 2:00pm

Let me start by saying I fully support Jaielyn's right to breastfeed. That said, I really wish people would tone down the "endangering the child" rhetoric.

Using this logic, any woman who doesn't breastfeed should have her children taken away from her and put in foster care. Obviously that's insane, but it wouldn't be the first time law enforcement did something insane based on a bad precident.

There's no doubt that breast milk is, in general terms, the best option for infants. But just as with all aspects of real life, sometimes the best option isn't practical.

Breastfeeding is a personal choice that each woman must make for herself, based on many different factors. For some women it's difficult, impractical or even impossible, and the notion that a woman who doesn't breastfeed is somehow endangering or harming her baby is judgemental, irrational, and patently false.

Don't allow your enthusiasm for your cause blind you to the fact that your personal choice may not be right for absolutely every other woman in the world.

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 2:56pm

"Breastfeeding is a personal choice that each woman must make for herself, based on many different factors. For some women it's difficult, impractical or even impossible, and the notion that a woman who doesn't breastfeed is somehow endangering or harming her baby is judgemental, irrational, and patently false. "

it is not false, it is not judgemental....it is fact. It is also fact that some women are unable to breast feed, or choose not to for many reason. We are not attacking them or judging them. We are stating a cold hard RESEARCHED fact. Breast milk is THE way babies are supposed be nourished, everything else is subpar. That does not make anyone a bad mom. As you said, sometimes the best is not always possible. But that doesn't make it any less of a fact that babies who are not breastfed are at a much higher risk for many health issues.

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01/30/2013 2:04pm

UPDATE - The school is saying they will accommodate her pumping needs. http://spartansuper.blogspot.com/2013/01/breast-feeding-at-school.html

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Jam Ingram
01/30/2013 2:17pm

Good for the teen mom. I was a teen mom and I had zero support when breastfeeding my son. So, it ended up being a failure. 13 years later I just had my 2nd son. And the breastfeeding support has been overflowing! 5 months in and we are still breastfeeding. Every mother is a mother no matter her age. Please encourage and support them, all of us.

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Megan
01/30/2013 2:40pm

I am sad to even say, that I attended the same school years and years ago.
I nursed both of my children, in my twenties. Went to work, after first child turned six-weeks old. Had very reasonable accommodations.
However, if I remember correctly....doesn't that school have not only one, but two womens/girls/ladies locker rooms (due to there being a swimming facility there too)?
I am shocked that they are giving the young lady such a hard time!!!

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Kimmie
01/30/2013 2:40pm

It's very commendable that she is standing so strong on her stance to breastfeed. However, are we saying that teen pregnancies are the way to go? At the end of the article, the mother says that she's proud of her daugher's choices that she's made....ugh really? Since when was it commendable for a 15 year old to go and get pregnant?

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MamaBear
01/30/2013 2:58pm

She chose to have her baby, she chose to care for her baby, she chose to breastfeed her baby, she chose to go back to school and finish her education. All commendable choices considering the fact that she is 15 and got pregnant.

And maybe I'm missing where anyone said teen pregnancies are the way to go.

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Candice Gutierrez (Justis)
01/30/2013 2:48pm

I used to attend lake and I think its crazy that they always talk bout statistics this girl is tryin to not be a statistic and the school is goin to force her to be i think that is crazy...... What are they teaching the kids these days........ugh

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Sue
01/30/2013 3:01pm

Gee, too bad, she didn't put that much thought into waiting to have a baby until after she was out of school. Then she would not have to worry about when she can or can not feed him. But, then that would be the smart thing to do. So, instead make a bunch of noise about not getting your way. As they said, you made your bed, now you can sleep in it. Sorry, but I do not think that the school should have to make special events for teen moms'. What happen to having them all in a school together, that way not only could she breast feed when need, but she could also take care of the baby she had to have at 15, have her change the diapers, rock him when he is awake, feed him, she wanted the baby, and she is only worried about breastfeeding the baby, Who takes care of the baby the rest of the day?

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Amanda
01/30/2013 3:27pm

Gee, too bad Sue is bitter, and needs to put people down. You have no right to judge her, you don't know her circumstances, and until you do, why don't you take your hate somewhere else?

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Tracy
01/30/2013 3:59pm

yes Sue seems to think this is a teen pregnancy issue rather than a human rights one. I'm imagining her mother takes care of the baby during the day which is what I'd be doing if my teenage daughter got pregnant and decided to keep her baby. And to pre-empt all the weirdos saying I might be the sort of person who'd encourage teen pregnancy... I'm not, she's not even dated any boys yet, it's just that even with the best parenting, advise and intentions ... shit happens. And sometimes how you deal with the fall out determines who you'll become in life rather than the mistake.

Lisa RN
01/30/2013 3:50pm

I was 26 and married when I had my first child. I had two degrees (one being a registered nurse the other a bs in science). My husband had a BS in biology and chemistry, a masters in education and was 1/2 way through a PhD in Biochemistry and Molecular Biology. We both had full time jobs with a steady and stable income. Heck, I worked for the govt. YET...I had to fight for the right to pump at my job. Even though the law said they had to provide accommodations they stuck me in a closet where people frequently walked in on me. They also fought tooth and nail to let me pump 3 times a day which was stupid because by their laws I was given 2 breaks and 1 lunch break a day...but until I provided a doctor's note they wouldn't give me my second break.

As for who takes care of the baby...well, a baby sitter or daycare will. Just like all of the other moms who work and can't watch them full time. You should be ashamed of yourself. She is trying her hardest to do what is right for this baby. Her age should play no factor into her feeding her child. There is a law against ageism.

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Jeff
01/30/2013 3:53pm

I agree with you Sue. The fact that she is not breast feeding and using a pump. This fact alone there is no law broken. There is no reason why this girl couldnt pump before or after school.

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Lisa RN
01/30/2013 4:06pm

There is a HUGE problem with it Jeff. Let someone cut your man boobs off and tell you to suck it up...that is how she will feel after 3-4 hours. Plus, she will risk infections just like you would with open wounds. Breastfeeding is hard work and can be dangerous. Learn about something before you post stupid comments and make yourself look like a jerk!!!

Ann
01/30/2013 4:07pm

Educate yourself before you speak. Clearly you have never nursed a baby. 8 hours is too long to not nurse or pump. You would explode and be in agony and your supply would dwindle.

Maggie
01/30/2013 7:50pm

Totally agree with Sue and if she's such a "good girl" why is she a teen mom ?

15 minutes of fame, you won't remember her name a month from now. But yet trying to change something that will cost every tax payer money. Not only in supporting her child and herself, but special privileges for teen moms in the schools. Next we'll be buying her diapers !!

The law for LABORERS to have a place to pump/nurse is DIFFERENT,THOSE PEOPLE ARE PAYING THERE OWN WAY !!

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ariel
01/30/2013 3:18pm

http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/health/breastfeeding-state-laws.aspx this is a website showing that she has the right to breastfeed or pump in school..it a state law she should go to the media with this they cant tell her no when the state law says she can

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Orga
01/30/2013 3:27pm

My hat goes out to you, for being so young and wanting to do such an amazing thing for your baby. I got an 8yr old and a 15month old and if I knew back then when my son was born in 2004. I would've definitely would've done it longer, with my daughter it's different I still do it and with my head held high. Don't let no one try to put you down. Stand up for what's right especially because is for your baby.

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Jeff
01/30/2013 3:41pm

School is a place to learn. If it is distracting other students from the noise, then she should pump at home. Fill a few bottles up before going to school. Shes not taking the child with her to school so i will have to agree with the schools decision. If it is in fact distracting other students then it's not fair to the other students compared to this one person. Bookworm or not she should have read up on planned parenting. I'm sure i know where this is going and suing the education system on a topic that is so selfish. Its all about attention and greed and don't forget if this young mother sues the education department it comes out of all our childrens education, supplies etc.

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Lisa RN
01/30/2013 4:00pm

Jeff, she isn't asking to pump or bf in class so there would be no distractions to other students. And since you aren't a woman let me explain something to your ignorant self...breasts are not coke fountains. They work on supply and demand. They only produce the amt needed to feed the baby every 2-3 hours. If she goes 8 hrs without expressing her milk she will get engorged, be in pain, won't produce as much milk bc the body will think it's over producing, and she will most likely end up with a very painful infection called mastitis which would bring you to your knees with tears streaming down your face. Your logic...and the school's are stupid and highly uneducated!!! And to set the record straight...feeding a child isn't about attention. It's about providing a helpless child with a basic need...FOOD!!!

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Jeff
01/30/2013 5:10pm

Lisa, i'm expressing my oppinion. Is it fair to the other students? You really showed your class and maturity in your statements. If not pumping every 3-4 hours is a problem, then she should stay at home. What i meant about attention is shes getting publicity from this. Our world is already filled with enough drama and chaos. Are'nt you the same person who was allowed to pump at work and bitched that you had to go to a closet where people walked in on you? You still bitched about it. With some people like you, nothing is ever good enough. As far as my uneducated ideas, ignorant and jerky qualities that you label me. I am educated and believe the world does'nt revolve around you or this young mother. Other factors are involved like the other students and staff. Should there be a place in school to pump? I would say yes, at the nurses station in the office of the school. Please in the future go blow smoke up someone elses ass. We all can't be perfect like you!

Lisa RN
01/31/2013 10:54am

Jeff, by law every woman is to be given a safe place to pump milk outside of a bathroom or such. I was NOT given that because men and women would randomly walk in on me. I was put in a CLOSET that all staff members had a key to. That did not fit the criteria by the LAW. I was being discriminated against. So yes, I had a right to fight and complain. And just out of curiosity, what are you "educated" in? I don't believe the world should revolve around me or any other one person in particular but if I have to follow the laws so does the govt.

Lily
01/30/2013 4:01pm

"Fill a few bottles up before going to school"???? Clearly, you know nothing about pumping, or maintaining supply.

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Ann
01/30/2013 4:04pm

Jeff- while I am sure you are well meaning, it would be good if you researched a bit about breastfeeding before posting such comments. Mothers need to nurse or pump every 2-3 hours initially in order to maintain supply. Some more, some less, but anything pushing 4 hours is too long. What happens? Well, the breasts will first get engorged, which is VERY painful if not managed, and then after a while, supply will drop and go away altogether. As for your comments about planned parenthood, who are you to judge? you don't know her or her circumstances and they are IRRELEVANT to her rights as a mother. School is for learning, but it is a public place and she has rights under both federal and state laws to feed her child in that place. It's not unreasonable to ask for a private room (one that should already exist since they are required to provide it to their staff) to pump 2-3 times while she is at school (which takes all of 20 minutes). She could probably even time it around her lunch and breaks. They are being bullies and discriminating against her. Plain and simple.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant
01/30/2013 4:20pm

SCHOOL IS EXACTLY THE PLACE WHERE WE NEED TO BE LEARNING HOW TO BREASTFEED.

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Chelsey
01/30/2013 8:47pm

Actually its not. School is a place to teach young girls and boys that their education come first. Teaching girls how to breast feed is just another push for teenage girls to think that getting pregnant is a good thing. There is nothing wrong with teen mothers, but being the daughter of a teen mother, its a very rough life style to grow up in. My mother struggled every day to make ends meet and she is my hero, but she tells me every day that she doesnt want me to repeat her life. I am now a junior in college, im a normal young adult, sexually active but i play it SMART! Birth control and condoms. If i were to somehow get pregnant while using both then i would step up and raise my child as best as possible. But things like teaching CHILDREN to breastfeed CHILDREN is just sad. Young girls should be encouraged to use every precaution to stay safe, continue their education, get married and once they are financially able to then have a child. I have nothing against teen mothers, but i came from a school where 50% of the females in my class had a child before they graduated, yet they never expected special treatment from the school!

Brett Daniels
02/01/2013 10:10am

Is breasfeeding on the state test? Does the US DOE look at knowledge of breastfeeding when measuring the effectiveness of public schools. Come on - this is one small isolated issue, that in the scope of all the important things in life is very small. However, I am sure the 15 year old boys would love to learn about the topic! Some people are "johnny one-notes" and have no clue!

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
02/01/2013 10:16am

As I mentioned below in a response to another one of your misinformed statements Chelsey, breastfeeding is a public health issue.

Despite the relatively low incidence of teen pregnancy (0.4% in 2011 - please refer to the CDC data for full report @ www.cdc.gov/teenpregnancy/aboutteenpreg.htm), less than half of all babies - no matter the age of their mother - receive the recommended 6 months of exclusive breast milk (www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/data/reportcard.htm). Interesting...

So then, where exactly is the best place to learn about breastfeeding?

It is not taught in Medical school. It is not taught in Nursing school.

Only 10% of the pregnant woman who go on to have their babies in the hospital where I work attend a breastfeeding class. This is not uncommon, and has much to do with the fact that they are going to medical doctors prenatally for their care when they are not high risk, and do not require a surgeon to manage their pregnancy. Since their pregnancy is being managed as a pathology, education on health and wellness is not a priority. Thus, many have no clue that a breastfeeding class is necessary.

Furthermore, after labor & birth, especially after a birth by cesarean section, a new mother is not in student-mode.

Actually, most of my soon-to-be parents are overwhelmed after a class, so I suspect that teaching a life skill such as breastfeeding during high school would be a great form of educational birth control.

In conclusion, I know you are hurting about something in your life. Projection is an obvious indicator of such. I encourage you to reach out for help instead of attacking a teenager.

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
02/01/2013 10:19am

correction: "only 10% of pregnant women"

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
02/01/2013 10:28am

I am sorry Brett that you did not receive breastmilk as a child.
I am sorry Brett that your children (if you have them) did not receive breastmilk.

I will not prove to you that I am more than a "one-hitter who repeats the same tired mantra over and over again." I do not wish to sell my personal agenda on this blog, which is the reason for my topic-focused comments.

I am here to have an evidence-based discussion, and encourage you to do the same.

Brett Daniels
02/01/2013 4:15pm

Rachel
My children were breast fed. The evidence is clear - breastfeeding is not on any state test mandated by state and federal departments of education. So, it must not be that important of an issue. That's the problem with the medical profession. They expect the schools to do everything. And, yes, I have more degree letters behind my name, but none in the medical profession.

Carrie
01/30/2013 5:53pm

As far as I have seen, this is not YET about greed and attention. We, followers of the media, have possibly given it far more attention than the student planned on receiving. I've nursed three babies and am currently pregnant with my fourth--I am not a lactation specialist, but have nursed and pumped for all of them. I had to LOL at your comment, Jeff, about filling up some bottles before school. Still LOL. I think the women you've been around make breastfeeding and/or pumping seem very effortless. Kudos to them. This is NOT how breastfeeding works. In a perfect world, this young woman would have never had sex, but she did. And she became pregnant and chose not to have an abortion which, in MY humble opinion, would have been the easy way out. You will NEVER find a pediatric doctor that says formula is better than breastmilk. As a matter of fact, they have proven breastmilk frozen and thawed out up to 6 months after pumped is far superior to formula. I know a mom who was unable to breastfeed her adopted baby (this is sometimes possible--google it) and purchased milk from a milk bank that was pumped by another woman for the baby's first year. Yes. From another woman. Stop cringing. It is not hazardous material. It is FOOD! That's how superior breast milk is to formula. I commend this high school student for NOT taking the easy way out; for having the child AND choosing to feed it the best way possible. No way can a person pump a couple times before school (that's the time that she's NURSING her feeding-on-demand infant) and have enough milk stored for the baby to eat the remainder of the day. It isn't possible. And oh my. I can't imagine the pain that would come from not expressing milk/nursing for 4 HOURS with a newborn, let alone ALL DAY. It's comparable to holding your bladder, I suppose. For four HOURS after you first felt like you might wet yourself. Oh, buddy. I'm a very reasonable person. I, for instance, understand that all I need to pump is the pump itself in a bag with a compartment large enough for a small 6x4 inch cooler with an ice pack (these usually come free at the hospital where the baby is born,) a semi comfortable chair, 15 minutes three times per school/workday, an outlet to plug in my pump, and some small bottles and bags to pump into--these are also stored right in the pump bag. I don't think she actually needs a refrigerator. I have left my milk in the fridge when I left work one day and that was awful. I couldn't get back in and was so bummed the baby had to have formula the next day. :( The last pump of the day, she can just take the cooler bag home with her bags/bottles for storing and washing. If I were her, I'd leave the bulky pump at school for the next day.

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Ashley
01/30/2013 8:54pm

This is not about greed. This is about an infants rights to have access to breastmilk. It is a children's rights issue more than anything else. No one who knows so little about breastfeeding should feel they can comment with a solution such as yours. If she is not allowed to pump, she will not keep up a supply and the baby will end up on formula. The baby has a RIGHT to the very best, regardless of the mothers situation. Pumping in the nurses office every 2-3 hours would be just as distracting as someone leaving class to PEE. How is pumping in private distracting to anyone??? Give her a place and let her put the milk in the fridge. Seriously.

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Chelsey
01/30/2013 9:03pm

I couldnt agree more! It IS a distraction if the girl is allowed to leave class to pump or breast feed.

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Tracy
01/30/2013 3:51pm

I can't believe anyone would have an issue with a woman using a breast pump ANYWHERE. She's not asking to do it in the cafeteria, just the same place that would be provided by LAW if it were a teacher having the same need.
Schools think they own students, they like them to all adhere to one set of rules and guidelines without factoring in the individual's needs. It IS possible to cater to individuals. School IS a place to learn. How about learning compassion, empathy, flexibility, humanity, responsibility of care, nutrition, parenting...

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Erynn
01/30/2013 4:00pm

Do they not realise not pumping or feeding for 8 hours a day will dry up her milk supply? Are they TRYING to punish her? Do they think schools are outside of the law?

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Erin
01/30/2013 4:06pm

Jennifer - You are an amazing young woman. (Don't get caught up in the crappy comments regarding homeschooling vs public school, or teen pregnancy etc etc)

You have made incredible choices and you are setting a fantastic example for you peers regarding breastfeeding and the care of your beautiful baby.

With everything stacked against you (the school, the ignorant adults, the school RN (!) You continue to make great choices to breastfeed.

There are many of us out here in cyber space who support you (even as far away as Canada). If there is anything we can do (send the school email msg's), just say the word.

This should not even be a discussion, really. You had a baby, you have the right to feed this baby.The End.

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Erin
01/30/2013 4:08pm

Jaielyn
ps.. and I apologize, as I was mutli tasking talking to my children, I typed your name wrong!

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Rachael
01/30/2013 4:08pm

This is absolutely shocking - what a terrible message for the school to send to the young ladies they are supposed to be educating. This responsible mother is trying to give her baby the best nutrition possible and the school are trying to prevent her. This is bad for the mother, for the baby, and for all the girls at the school who will miss out on the opportunity to have the natural act of feeding breastmilk to a baby normalised. I hope common sense wins out.

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Kristina
01/30/2013 4:11pm

The baby will also not be sick as much which would also decrease truancy, missed days. If I were her I would just bring my pump and pump,in the bathroom or gym locker room until it gets figured out. They should try to accomodate this mom, because a teen mom who is educated with at least a highschool education her risk for living in poverty decreases, especially since she has a supportive family. Let this mom and child have the best shot. Let her pump for gods sake and keep her in school. You think formula is expensive, try welfare! The tax payers of DE need to think about the return on investment. They already have a fridge, but she doesn't need that, just a space. Being a RN myself I would try to accomodate her, using a cot in the nurses office. She can eat her lunch while pumping...whatever...just let her!

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Maria
01/30/2013 4:14pm

I cannot believe the amount of ignorant comments about that this is not a breastfeeding issue and this girl will be distracting the learning environment. It's sad, really. Obviously people who are making these comments have never breastfed or had to pump. How would this girl going to a private area to privately pump breastmilk for her baby and put it in a small cooler the size of a lunchbox interrupting the education of others? Just because she is a teen mother does not mean people are allowed to discriminate against her. This type of minset is the reason why these fights are being fought.

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Ellie
01/30/2013 6:45pm

This is just plain RIDICULOUS. The main problem is there was an ignorant and arrogant school nurse. As a high school nurse myself I have worked to create a space for young mamas who are pumping. There is a refrigerator, a rocking chair, and a small room with a lock to insure privacy. Because I was so clear that this was the right of nursing mothers, the administration went along with me and didn’t give me a whit of trouble. There was no teasing, because we created a private space in the teacher’s room who taught the “Teen Living” classes. She was totally on board with it too. I am so sorry that this mama has to have this struggle, but she is learning to be a powerful woman and is taking a stand that benefit both her and her baby. BTW, I have breastfed five babies/toddlers but have never pumped. Unfortunately the U.S. breastfeeding rate at one year is abysmal. Kudos to this young lady who will be a role model for her peers.

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cathy LPN,IBCLC
01/31/2013 1:42am

Ellie, Kudos to YOU for taking the time to arrange for 'small room with a lock to insure privacy'. I would be willing to bet that you bought the rocker yourself! Thank You for being there to touch the lives of these young women in such a positive way. It is a shame that the nurse in Jaielyn's school has not been open minded OR so proactive! "We can not turn the clock back, we can only go forward."

cathy LPN,IBCLC
01/31/2013 1:43am

Ellie, Kudos to YOU for taking the time to arrange for 'small room with a lock to insure privacy'. I would be willing to bet that you bought the rocker yourself! Thank You for being there to touch the lives of these young women in such a positive way. It is a shame that the nurse in Jaielyn's school has not been open minded OR so proactive! "We cannot turn the clock back, we can only go forward."

Carrie
01/31/2013 8:29pm

I think the biggest misnomer here is that by accomodating her desire to feed her baby in the best way possible, we are CONDONING her teen pregnancy. Couldn't be farther from the truth. Thank you, Ellie. As you well know from your nursing years, her first few months back at school are CRUCIAL. It is so easy to throw in the pumping towel in great circumstances, let alone when people are throwing stumbling blocks in your way! I wish the best of luck to this young woman.

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01/30/2013 4:21pm

This is an interview with Jaielyn's schools superintendant. I wanted to just thank you all for your continued support!!

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Kendra
01/30/2013 4:16pm

I work in a WIC clinic in Indiana. We've had luck changing some minds about these situations with letter coming from both mom's and baby's physicians. They often have to be very specific about how long mom will need to pump and how often, but it has worked wonders. If anyone has contact with this amazing young mother, and they haven't tried this approach, please pass it along!

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Robert de Block
01/30/2013 4:21pm

I think that all Women with Babies should be able to Breast Feed no matter where they are at because they have to feed them and take care of their needs

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Ashley
01/30/2013 4:26pm

Please don't give up.

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01/30/2013 4:33pm

Darcy!!!!! Regardless of your opinion or judgment.... she has a right to breastfead or pump in school...by law!!!! She still has to provide milk during the day for her baby. It is not disruptive to leave Lucy, study hall, p.e. (etc...) to go to a more private place to pump. Some kids have medical conditions and disabilities... is it disturbing for them to go receive care? No!!! She legally has a right to......so what you think about.the situation doesn't matter!!!!!!!

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Heather
01/30/2013 9:12pm

For the record, she does NOT have a "right" to breastfeed or pump in school. EMPLOYEES are protected by that law, not students. Teen Moms looking for special treatment should seek that at the schools INTENDED for Teen Moms, not look to disrupt the education of everyone around them!

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Jesse
02/01/2013 1:14am

Just for the record..
Delaware: Del. Code Ann. tit. 31 § 310 (1997) entitles a mother to breastfeed her child in any location of a place of public accommodation wherein the mother is otherwise permitted. (Vol. 71 Del. Laws, Chap. 10; 1997 HB 31)
So, yes, she does have a "right" to breastfeed her child in school.

louise
01/30/2013 4:41pm

Really? People who don't know anything about breast feeding should really have no room to talk. It's harmful to the mother's health to go so long without breastfeeding or pumping. Mastitis, clogged ductss, engorgements are PAINFUL and make the mother sick. I breastfed 4 children, tried with the 5th but was unsuccessful and lordy do I know how each and every one of those feel like. I don't remember ever going 2 hours without feeding or pumping without milk pouring out. I'm not talking about a tiny little shower of milk but storm pouring, whole front shirt soaked in a matter of a minute.
The point is not the fact of her being a teen mom, its the fact she is a mother fighting her rights to pump her own milk from her own body to feed her baby. If it's not healthy to hold your PEE for so long, then what makes u think its not the same for mothers to drain their breast?

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Candice
01/30/2013 4:42pm

They are worried about her milk contaminating things in the refrigerator? I store my milk in hospital refrigerators all of the time! She can store the milk in a labeled bag and then put it in a ziplock bag. There shouldn't be an issue with that,

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Thomas Callahan
01/30/2013 4:46pm

Please think. You and some young boy played and now you have to pay. stay out of school and feed your baby.school is no place for babies.you can return to school later.

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Meg
01/30/2013 5:16pm

Stay out of school? Really? Thank God you're not her father. It would take 15min 3x a day. I know, I currently pump to feed my 11week old.

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Stacy Hancock
01/30/2013 5:31pm

she's not taking the baby to school. and feeding a baby doesn't mean stopping what you're doing. work, school, whatever.

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Jeff
01/30/2013 5:31pm

I agree with you. I'm sure they could skype into the classroom.

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selena
01/31/2013 9:15pm

WOW!! So you are saying she should go on the welfare train and never get off because that's what would probably happen if she stays at home and feeds her baby. You are clueless. She has every right to continue her education just like everyone else. wow, I am so shocked by the narrow minded people making comments. I am also very proud of everyone coming to this brave girls aid. She has been more of an amazing mom in this short amount of time than some 30ish yr old females I have met. Stay strong and don't be bullied by narrow minded jerks. Finish high school and please continue your education into college. It's your right and best for your baby.

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Louise
01/30/2013 4:51pm

Thomas- how do you know if she and some boy played? Maybe she was raped? How can u decide what happened to her or how she got pregnant? She is doing the right thing going back to school and taking care of her baby. She is trying to make a successful future for herself and her child. Shame on you for being so judgemental.

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AngaPROUDBFmom
01/30/2013 4:55pm

SHAME ON THEM!!!!! I would sue!

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kayla
01/30/2013 5:33pm

There is a public high school for expectant/ teen moms to attend with their children. There is daycare provided on campus and public transportation is provided. It's worth looking into. Good Luck!

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Kristy trost
01/30/2013 5:51pm

I'd show up regardless with the pump and pump either way I'd take something with ice pack in it to store milk

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01/30/2013 6:41pm

My daughter had my grandson also in her sophmore year of high school. No one at the school helped with any accomidations for her,We needed to fight for absences due to illness, absences for surgery etc. This is a basic right you are asking for. FIGHT THE school system! My daughter never gave up and she will soon graduate College. You can do it with that miracle you have been given!

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Hanna Greene
01/30/2013 7:13pm

She "only" wants to do what's best for him? Funny because being a teen mother is decidedly NOT the best mother for a child. Apparently she is far more committed to breast feeding than birth control. Figures!

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selena
01/31/2013 9:46pm

WOW!!! Just 2 days ago here in my hometown a 34 yr old mom was arrested for killing her 3 month old. Age doesn't automatically make you a good mom. At 15, she has the knowledge that breastmilk is healthier than formula. She is making the best decisions possible for her baby. She's not asking for much--she could "just stay home and feed the baby" and go on welfare, or she could be a non-caring female with no parental emotions at all which do you prefer Hanna? She just wants to pump milk so that her baby has the chance to be as healthy as possible.

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Annette
01/30/2013 7:33pm

I wish she had made better choices about getting pregnant so she wouldn't have to be fighting this battle.

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Cathy
01/31/2013 1:25am

Annette, your statement is, as my elderly aunt would say: 'shutting the barn door long after the horse got out' .

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Ashlei
01/30/2013 7:36pm

Shame one the ADULTS and their comments. Wonderful that this young woman is trying to make the best of her situation. It doesnt

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Rachel
01/30/2013 7:38pm

Seriously!!! It is 201: and someone is suggesting we hide our teen moms in a second rate school? I am disgusted by the thought. We shut the fathers away!
Young lady I hope you march yourself right in YOUR school pump in hand and get your education.
May god have mercy on the educators have forgotten the purpose for which they serve. Making out young people feel like a am outcast is not it.
Next point, we allow planned parent hood and all it ill intentions to provide all manner of misguided information to out teens and when all fails and one ends up with a baby the school system takes no responsibility, provides no support. For Shame!

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Chelsey
01/30/2013 8:31pm

This is extremely absurd! First off, something like this shouldn't be made into a media play thing. It is clearly stated that they do not have the resources to accomodate the girl and her need to breast feed. For her to do this the school would have to 1) provide a room for her to breast feed, 2) provide a refrigerated area if she were to simply pum and store the breast milk and 3) allow her to leave class multiple times during the day so she can do these actions. No one is saying that breast feeding her child is a negative thing but i have never seen a law or anything that protects HIGH SCHOOL MOTHERS. I congradulate her for stepping up and taking care of her child the proper way, but the school is not responsible for making sure she has a place and time to breast feed her child! Going to school is about receiving an education and in order to be educated she has to stay in the classroom and not expect the school to treat her as an employer is required to an employee. This girl can also turn out to be a distraction to the other students. If she was allowed to leave class it would create an problem with the students who do not believe this is fair but teachers as well when the girl comes back demanding to know what she missed.

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Megan
01/31/2013 8:14am

I agree

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Lisa RN
01/31/2013 11:24am

Magically enough Chelsey...once they were called out on the absurdity of not allowing this MOTHER the space to pump...they found appropriate accommodations and told her it would be fine to pump at school. The school LIED when they said they didn't have the resources to accommodate her. They just didn't want to deal with it.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA International Board Certified Lactation Consultant
01/31/2013 2:49pm

Exactly what more justified of an excuse (besides breastfeeding) do you have for your apparent lack of a "proper" education?

You have failed to demonstrate an understanding of the English language in an argument you are making regarding basic human rights.

For your information, breast milk does not immediately need refrigeration. I encourage you to read the following protocol issued by the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine:

http://www.bfmed.org/Media/Files/Protocols/Protocol%208%20-%20English%20revised%202010.pdf

And for future reference, if the subject group pertaining to an argument you are making could be replaced with other historically discriminated groups of people (e.g., Native American Indians, Jews, African Americans, disabled persons), then you are demonstrating the "new & improved" form of prejudice in our society.

Many Blessings to you!

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Claire
01/30/2013 8:54pm

FYI- Joe Biden is from PA...NOT Delaware

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ASmith
01/30/2013 8:54pm

Wow... I hate that the school is unwilling to accomodate her and her son. I almost feel like if it were me, I would just choose to homeschool the rest of the way so that I could exclusively breastfeed because I wouldn't want to be in a place that didn't support me, but I get wanting to change the rules and make it accepted. I am still nursing my 14-month old... by the time I went back to work when he was 10 weeks old, I was pumping twice a day for about 12 minutes each time to feed him enough each day until he was around 4 months, when we started adding cereal to his diet and then pureeing steamed fruits and veggies... hopefully they can work something out to allow her to pump twice. I mean they let kids on crutches leave class 5 minutes early to make their way to their next class... why can't they give her a couple minutes to pump? What's the harm? They let ADHD kids leave classes early to go get their meds. This is a medical issue, and so she should be given a medical accomodation. Surely the nurse's office has an outlet she can plug into. Also, they don't need to provide her a fridge to store milk, nor would anyone want to store milk in a common fridge - people let things rot over the weekend. Repulsive. Just take a small insulated lunch box and ice pack - the blue kind doesn't thaw as fast as a water-filled ice pack and will keep milk cold MUCH longer. Good luck!! I hope the school comes to its senses.

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Chelsey
01/30/2013 9:35pm

False. Kids dont leave class early to get ADHD medicine, they are encouraged to take one before they get to school and one at lunch. You logic also only pertains to elementary aged kids who are not allowed to handle their own medications. High school students are not required to hand over medications to school nurses. Many people above are saying that breast feeding is a natural process that every woman has a right to do, so with that being said it isnt a medical issue.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/31/2013 3:03pm

Yes, children do leave to the classroom to receive physician-ordered medication. Here is the WV (one of the states I am licensed as a RN) State Board of Education policy regarding such:

http://wvde.state.wv.us/policies/p2422.8.pdf

Yes, the lack of breastfeeding is a medical issue, and is endorsed and promoted by the following major maternal and child health authorities in the United States:

American Academy of Family Physicians
American Academy of Nurses
American Academy of Pediatrics
American College of Nurse-Midwives
Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine
Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics
Association of Women's Health, Obstetric and Neonatal Nurses
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
National WIC Association
U.S. Breastfeeding Committee
U.S. Preventive Services Task Force
U.S. Surgeon General

I encourage you to go the websites of these groups and read their policy statements regarding breastfeeding.

In the meantime, I will pray that you are not a healthcare professional.

Carrie
01/31/2013 8:18pm

I totally disagree with you. Natural thing? Yes. The only reason that breasts exist are to feed babies. However, when you make the decision to breastfeed, to NOT be allowed to do so every few hours is like not allowing a person who needs to use the restroom do so. For many hours. It can lead to health issues. I had days where I felt ready to explode after three hours and other days where I was able to go 6 hours between pumping and then as my child matured and ate more table foods (11 months) I didn't need to pump at all. I had enough milk frozen to last the babysitter for the times I was away from him. He drank whole milk at a year and ate just like a big kid, so my milk production slowed. Anyway, just my personal experience.

selena
01/31/2013 10:07pm

Depends on the state and school district. My HS doesn't even allow students to have advil, midol, or tylenol on their person much less a class-II narcotic like ADHD medicine. Breastfeeding is what this mom has decided along with the doctor to be the best option for the baby, so it is medical. I have now read where the school has now said they will provide a place for her to pump, wow I guess the hailstorm of phone calls and emails made them see they were WRONG!

Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
02/01/2013 10:36am

Selena, I would encourage you to investigate your state's board of education policy on administration of medication because it is likely that someone in your high school is not following the rules. I have seen this in West Virginia despite the clearly written policy to the contrary. Just an FYI because I have found that often we assume that our authority figures are following the rules, but this isn't always the case. Furthermore, if you are willing to provide me with the state in which you live, I would be happy to investigate for you.

Melissa
01/30/2013 8:54pm

I just have to say I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion but it is not your battle, let them fight for it... There is no need to have all these strangers that are not familiar with the school, staff, and environment to be involved all you are doing is complicating the situation and creating chaos around the situation. Please let them handle it I have been apart of many school districts in the area for a long time and I know every principal in Lake Forest on a very personal and professional level as well as 95% of the staff in every building, you will be surprised at the way people miscommunicate on many level and create drama around a topic that is not that extravagant... please let them work through the issue by themselves and stay out of it... give the support to the student but do not go crazy and contact the school.... remember there is always three sides to every story, his side, her side, and the truth and I can tell you for a fact that there are parts missing from this story and now the entire thing is being blow way out of proportion because ya'll cannot mind your own business.!!

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Lisa RN
01/31/2013 11:27am

By you posting this...you are getting involved in the issue. Maybe you should take your own advice and keep your opinion to yourself? The SUPERINTENDENT (that you are so fond of) said they couldn't accommodate her. But by law they are required to accommodate the female teachers who are breast feeding so they do have ways to accommodate her.

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/31/2013 3:08pm

If my memory serves me correctly, then I believe I learned in high school that this very attitude you are encouraging led to the slaughter of millions and millions and millions of innocent people during World War II.

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Linsey
01/31/2013 4:42pm

Melissa, please think about what you're saying. Are you really condemning these people for trying to right what they see is an injustice? Would you stay silent when you hear about a child being bullied at school, or hurt by his parents? Do you ignore requests for help when you hear about a natural disaster? Perhaps you would... You're not adding information that would change minds and this stopped being an internal issue when the family asked for help. I'm proud to be part of a country where so many people will step up to help one young woman peacefully and thoughtfully fight her battle.

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01/30/2013 10:03pm

If you ever need support for a petition, I would put my name on it.

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Jeanne Medina
01/30/2013 11:42pm

I have the hardest time not being judgmental of Judgemental People. First of all before you make assumptions about what this girl did, and should face consequences for, just stop yourself right there. We don't know that she got to make a choice. She could have gotten pregnant against her wishes. She's 15. Plenty of kids that age get pregnant from being raped, or from incest. I'm not saying that is the case here. I'm just making the point that you don't actually know the situation, which is just one of the many reasons why you shouldn't jump to conclusions and decide punishments for others. Those who claim to be "Christians" that do so, are using a label they don't deserve. Real Christians actually follow the teachings of Christ, Himself, who specifically warned us not to judge others, as well as instructing us to treat others, as we would wish to be treated, and to help others in need. We all fall short of Grace, so if you want to keep your label, you'd best get on your knees and ask forgiveness for taking that attitude against this girl and her mother.

I worried that this story might be getting blown out of proportion, but after hearing that audio interview, it's really clear that she is in a hostile situation for breastfeeding, as is every other woman who works there. ( I would guess the breastfeeding rates among the employees would be very low. )

Another thing I noticed from people's comments, was how heroic people thought this kid was for being willing to breastfeed. Don't get me wrong. I am a big time, full term breastfeeding advocate, but breastfeeding is "normal". In the hostile situation women face in some areas of this country, her willingness to endure loads of undeserved crap and hostility from people who don't want her to breastfeed, is certainly courageous. But to move ourselves to true liberation, we need to watch our language. In order for breastfeeding to truly be normalized, breastfeeding a child needs to be expected, not heroic. Many of the things that make breastfeeding painful and difficult are actually caused by the very situation this girl is facing. Yes, if the system stays like it is, then for her to continue within it, is Heroic. But what needs to change is the system. What needs to change is the breastfeeding education level of the people in charge of the schools. They won't change until all of us demand it, litigate it, and fight for it, until we get the change that's needed. He said that all the schools that had been built recently in that state did not have nursing rooms. He used this example to justify his position that he needn't offer her any accommodation. But really he just pointed out how badly the system needs to change, for employees, for students, for the health of the next generation.

I'm so grateful when I go into new malls and businesses these days and see family rooms, next to the male and female restrooms. Now a Dad can feel free to take his daughter out and not be in an awkward situation. I can take my son out and not worry who he's going to run into in the men's room. This society catching up with the needs of the public. Well now, we the public, are soundly rejecting the notion that there was ever anything wrong with breastfeeding our children. Children in fact, are far less disruptive when they get to nurse.

We are beginning, (in our understanding, and in our language), to reject the notion that breast is "best", (as if another option is even close). Breast is the norm for the human species. Formula and bottles, though wildly popular for a time, have been proven to be detrimental to the health of our children. Not breastfeeding has proven to be detrimental to the health of women, and can cause breast cancer. Our systems need to catch up to the science, and the will of women to nurture our children the way God and nature intended!

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Kerstin d
01/31/2013 3:18am

EVERYTHING you just said I agree with. 100%. I don't even need to add my comment now, so thank you! Lol

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cathy colbs
01/31/2013 1:13am

I am appalled that this is such a controversial subject in 2013 ! Breastfeeding SHOULD be considered the cultural NORM in the USA ! Clearly Jaielyn should be aloud to use a quiet spot w/ a door that locks ( preferably NOT a bathroom, although many of us w/ way older children did the 'bathroom thing' out of desperation! ) With a medical grade double electric pump, 20 min every 2-3 hours should be very workable. She can carry an insulated lunch bag/cooler w/ freezer packs, so the school doesn't have to freak out about 'body fluids' in their fridge. ( the Pump and freezer bag/packs etc...should be HER responsibility NOT the schools) She can Breastfeed the baby just before leaving for school and immediately after school. If there is a clinic on site an exam room could be made available for that short amount of time....( ever heard of wiping down exam rooms after EACH use?) If the school is concerned that she 'isn't really using the time to pump' seeing empty bottles coming back full should be enough prof... Under NO circumstances should she be forced to have someone in the room with her that SHE doesn't want there ! If Jaielyn is agreeable maybe someone from La Lache League could assist her the first few days back until she gets into a workable routine ( there WILL be a learning curve)...IMHO this has been handled very poorly by the school system, Shame on THEM!. Breast feeding /Breast milk feeding her infant will cause her to have fewer absences from school as her infant should be healthier than if he was formula fed! This is the one thing that only this young mother can do for this infant...this is Something VERY Positive and should be encouraged and supported...This would be a wonderful way to include Breast feeding as a Breast function in health class! As for sending her to the alternative school...if ALL of the classes she needs / wants for what ever long tern career path /further education she plans are NOT offered there, then the Alternative school is not a good alternative for THIS student !( I do not know what courses offered or not offered in said 'Alternative' school) As for ALL the 'Home Schoolers' who have posted about homeschooling on this thread...clearly that is not this families choice and should be debated elsewhere...
C.L.ColbsLPN,IBCLC

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Corrina
01/31/2013 1:20am

Good for her! Go for it sweetie! Tell them that its your child and that you have the right to raise your child as you see fit! If they have an issue with the pump, then ask them how they'd feel having the baby there in class for every feeding!

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katie
01/31/2013 1:41am

I support breast feeding 100%. Good for her to stick up for herself. The other side of this that no one has mentioned is Lake said they will make accomadations for her. She just needs to have a cooler to keep the milk in. If she wants to have a normal high school life , she may just have to suck it up. I dont feel that Lake should have to spend more money for something that is already offered at a different school. That said , I do support her decision , but I also support Lake.

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B. Trujillo Barragan RN, BSN, IBCLC
01/31/2013 3:41am

Kudos to this young mom for standing up for her rights! She is doing the best for herself and her infant . Support at this stage is so crucial in the development of both mom and baby. I had my son during my senior year and was supported at my high school for my pumping needs as well as my educational needs. I can now look back and feel certain that the support I received then was vital to me graduating that spring and then going on to graduate from college . BettMarie T. Barragan RN,BSN, IBCLC

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Terry
01/31/2013 7:59am

I worked and went to school full time while my kids were babies. I also breastfeed my kids until they were 1year and the other 9 months. I had to pump around my work schedule - so I pumped during my lunch and then feed my kids before and after my evening classes. It can be done and not during the middle of a class. The school should be able to find a quiet place during here lunch period to pump and she can bring an insulated bag to store the milk. It is discreet and not disruptive and it can be done.

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Megan
01/31/2013 8:13am

I can understand the school's position on that they don't want this issue to be a distraction for other students. but at the very most, they can provide this young mother a private place to either bf her baby or pump and have a refrigerator set aside for her to store the milk.

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Hanna Greene
01/31/2013 9:42am

No child is best served by having a teenage mother!

But let's be up in arms over her right to breastfeed being infringed upon but not remind this young lady that her very poor choices led to this difficulty she finds herself in - and this is ONLY the beginning of how difficult it will be for she and her child because of HER poor choice.

If you're a sexually active teenager, use birth control. It's free at any Planned Parenthood location. And if you should become pregnant and WANT to give that child the best future, consider adoption. Because all of the breastmilk on the planet isn't going to do a fraction of the good that a home with older, stable, well-equipped parents who aren't figuring out how to juggle school, work and a baby during the very frenzied years of teenhood.

So stupid to focus on breastmilk challenges when the future of this child is already so challenged!

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Rachel Bell RN, MS, MBA, IBCLC
01/31/2013 3:34pm

I encourage you to educate yourself regarding the Healthcare Crisis in this country.

Stability is not based on money, dear neighbor.

I could lead you to a myriad of world-known religious texts that support this statement, but instead I will focus on science.

Here is a good place to get started:

http://www.usbreastfeeding.org/

Breastfeeding is more than receiving breast milk.

Our country outspends any other country with regards to healthcare, and yet we are one of the unhealthiest nations in the developed world. Lack of nurturing and nutrition, as well as receiving unnecessary medical intervention, are well-documented reasons for our mortality and morbidity rates.

Teenagers make up a fraction of our mothers, and yet most children in our country do not receive breast milk in any form, and many are "cared for" by daycare providers prior to their enrollment in the public school system.

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Charlie Rose
01/31/2013 9:49am

Jaielyn has a right to stay at Lake Forest. The comment about her "choosing" to leave the support of the teen mom school is disgusting. I blogged about her rights and my experience of being a nursing teen mom here:
http://www.momsrising.org/blog/teen-moms-school-refuses-to-let-her-pump-milk/

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Lisa Marie (mom of 4 who were breastfed)
01/31/2013 9:49am

Good for her for wanting to exclusively breastfeed. As for the school district, THAT'S PATHETIC! This school is really showing their ignorance towards women who want to nurse. As for no where to pump, it's called a bathroom! As for the breast pump making noise that's distracting...c'mon give another good excuse. These idiots obviously have no clue that there are manual pumps available or that your own hands that make absolutely NO noise what-so-ever. Even I had a top of the line Medela electric pump that made VERY LITTLE noise so I could pump at work in the bathroom. As for refrigerators for medicine only, you have a cafeteria don't you? That cafeteria has milk stored in the fridge doesn't it? What's the difference? That milk came from a cows breasts, did it not!? Keep thinking of more excuses. I hope they realize they are up for a lawsuit and hope they get it. If they can do it for a teacher, they can do it for a student! Seems like this SOPHOMORE is taking more responsibilities than idiotic, egotistical ADULTS! One last thing....Was she teased for getting pregnant? Is she being teased for having a baby? My answer would be probably not. So why would she be teased for wanting to breastfeed? (As she's around teenage boys who like to see big breasts, I'm sure)

TO Jaielyn: What I would do is continue to pump when you should. Take your pump and an insulated cooler filled with ice packs or ice and go to the nurse's office to pump privately (if you have an electric pump). If yo have a manual pump or use your hands, just go to the bathroom. But I hope you continue to pursue this and get a lawsuit against them! Thank you for being one of us who thinks of our children FIRST!! God bless you and good luck!!

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Brett Daniels
01/31/2013 10:12am

Do people really think the adminstrators have the time to read and reply to all these emails? You are wasting your time writing and calling. I think I read where the school has not denied this, but advocates love to jump on an issue. The local entertainer who got the ball rolling on a radion show must really be irresponsible. You would think people would have more important things to do and issues to address. One more thought, I wonder about this young mother's parent. How involved was she when her 14 year old daughter was getting pregnant. Hmmm.

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Lisa RN
01/31/2013 11:34am

Brett, they have now changed their tune, but in the beginning, they were saying they didn't have accommodations for her so she would just have to pump before and after school which isn't a plausible option for any nursing mothers. The superintendent said that other teachers who were breastfeeding decided this was the best option for them so she could contact them for support.

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J. Eisenberg
01/31/2013 12:24pm

Resources: ACLU, Delaware human rights commission for violations of public accommodation law, the department or education office of civil rights charge with enforcement of title IX

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Diana
01/31/2013 12:39pm

What can we do to help her get the time and proper space that she deserves as a mother?

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seraphine
01/31/2013 2:54pm

Teen mom or not, would this not help teach other teens (because one day they will grow up and become parents, some of them anyway) that it is ok to breastfeed? I think there can be many more things to learn from a situation like this, and none of it negative.
How to persevere in spite of challenges, empathy, health...

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Taylor
01/31/2013 5:15pm

i personally know Jaielyn, even sat in class with her last year, sh is very sweet and very smart. I do approve of her choosing to breastfeed, and the fact she wants to is great, though i see this being taken too far. if the school is making such a big fuss she should do what my mother had to do before going to work, she could simply pump before school and store it in the fridge at home. this would stop all this publicity/drama and the baby would still get its nutrition. now if she is worried about filling and "leaking" then she just go to bathroom and relieve it like other teen moms have done. Yes, the school should be polite enough to let her just use the Wellness Center when no appointments are taking place (so the school doesnt worry about other students seeing her), and if she has to have "supervision" there are two women normally in the Wellness Center to check in on her, im sure that if her breast are hurting and need to be pumped that she isnt going to play in the halls, i dont even think she did that to begin with.

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Diana
01/31/2013 6:43pm

The thing about that is that doing that can cause a decrease or a problem with milk supply thus in turn causing problems being able to feed the lil one. I'm a mom of 5 and I KNOW before and after school pumping alone is not adequate enough and it's also not even close to the recommendations of pumping frequency to just KEEP the supply that she has. I fought very hard to be able to breastfeed and couldn't keep up the supply. If she is willing to work at it and keep it up they need to help.

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Taylor
01/31/2013 7:11pm

I'm not sayingthat the school shouldn't help and that before and after school would be enough, but it would eliminate some of the drama.

Tabitha
01/31/2013 9:18pm

All of you praising this young lady only know 1/2 the story HALF do you people understand that??? YOU HAVE A SIDE OF THE STORY THAT SOUNDS GOOD FOR SOME STIRRED UP CONTROVERSY and media DRAMA!! Its pathetic.. Your all pathetic... The school has said there is misinformation out there online.. Imagine that @@ a 14 yr old had sex SHE MADE CHOICES THATVARE GOING TO FOREVER MAKE HER LIFE DIFFICULT... To suggest the school needs a private breast feeding room??? WTF IT'S SCHOOOOOOOOL !

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Jenny
02/01/2013 2:11am

CAPS LOCK MEANS I'M ANGRY

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Brett Daniels
02/01/2013 10:19am

I am a bit angry too. I can't believe the people who are making such a big deal out of this issue. The radio entertainer who got this started is laughing and selling advertising for his show!

Jenny
02/01/2013 12:06pm

I can't imagine why you, as a man, would concern yourself with women's rights. The people of Delaware are seen as regressive Puritans in contrast to this young woman's plight. This is the sort of story one would expect out of the Middle East.

Lisa Marie (mom of 4 who breastfed)
02/01/2013 9:31am

According to WBOC, accommodations are being made. She has to take a cooler to store her breast milk in. And as for breastfeeding a newborn, they eat every 2-4 hrs. So she needs to pump that same time frame for the ones that keep saying she can pump before, during lunch, or after school.

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Taylor
02/01/2013 5:17pm

I have now gained more knowledge from a staff member who is ALSO breastfeeding at this time. Jaileyn was provided the same decision the teacher had, she was given a private area to pump but was told that she would have to bring her own storage, the teacher just uses her lunch box to store the milk, and the teacher pumps during planning periods in an empty science room. Our school is not as terrible as they are making it sound, they are understanding and will allow things to a certain point.

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02/01/2013 6:03pm

That's right! Mid-afternoon Wednesday, Dr. Curry told a reporter for the News Journal that Jaielyn would have a private place and time to pump during school hours. That was not the original decision by staff at the high school, though. We're very happy to see that she will now be able to pump!

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Sylvia
02/02/2013 10:25am

You go girl. Do not give up. It makes me so happy to see a young mother feeding her baby the right way the healthiest way. So proud :} What there doing to you is so against human nature. I'm sure there all ok with puppy's feeding from there mother. DO NOT GIVE UP. I can not believe the nurse said that to you about how you will get picked on OMGoodness. They should be going out of there way to help you while your there. Because what your doing is the best thing for your child. And it seems to me the only ones picking on you are the staff not the kids.

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Stacy
02/04/2013 9:17pm

The school absolutely can rearrange her schedule to include a 'study hall' or similar midday to accommodate for pumping. Very silly.

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jimbo
02/05/2013 2:18am

so should gay guys be allowed to go jerk it in a corner so they can bring kids into this world?

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Annoyed
02/07/2013 5:00pm

She is a student...NOT an employee.... Maybe if she kept ker nose in the books and not her eyes on the boys there wouldn't be an issue.....

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04/12/2013 2:59pm

My senior year at Lake Forest in 1997 I gave birth to my daughter and I nursed her, and I have to honestly say that the school nurse was not helpful in my decision to breastfeed my child. I was prepared to return to school and thought that pumping my milk was a great choice for my baby, but I was so surprised by the lack of support that I received from the school. Th only person who truly helped me as well as the rest of the girls who were pregnant or who had just delivered was Mary Venson the school social worker in the Wellness center. Mrs.Venson saved my life on more than one account. Jaeilyn you are so blessed to have such great parents...I went to school with them and they were great people then. Lake Forest needs to wake up and support breastfeeding for young mother's.....offer up a section in the Wellness Center as a private space for the mother's to nurse!

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07/17/2013 9:13am

I am a breastfeeding mom. My left breast has inverted nipple. Why is it so painful during the start of breastfeeding when my daughter tries to draw the nipple out? Is there any way I can correct this?

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07/24/2013 12:33am

oh well, breastfeeding is really necessary for every child so i am hoping that the government will impose a law that it is mandatory to do breast feeding.

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